Knowing When to Reach Out: Why Is It So Hard to Seek for Help?
The fear of feeling like I'm a burden to anyone makes it really difficult for me to ask for help unnecessarily, I only ask for help when necessary and when the burden is heavy for me to carry alone.
I have always been the kind of person to sort things out my self, especially when possible and attainable, but when it's necessary I ask for help from the right persons.
Most times, I feel asking others might feel like a burden to them, also the fear of being vulnerable to others, it makes me not to easily ask for help, especially when it's not a pressing need.
My first option when I'm faced with issues isn't always to seek for help immediately , I will always try as much as I can to sort myself, before calling others for help.
That's because I believe people also have their own problems and I don't wish to be a part of their problem or a burden to them too.
I try as much as I can to exhaust and utilize my own options , before calling others to help me and I don't jugde those who ask willingly.
The fact is that I have to try and put in more efforts to solve my problem, because I don't just call for help unnecessarily.
My best friend ones told me, that before I ask for help it has to be a pressing need and that's the same opinion my elder siblings have about me and that's why whenever I ask them for help they respond without hesitation.
In as much as it's good to always ask for help, I believe that people who ask for help unnecessarily and constantly will always lose respect easily, people will always see them as takers, it's normal for individuals to block and not respond to those who ask incessantly and frequently. That's something I can do, and I don't blame people who do the same.
Asking for help shouldn't be constant begging and overly dependent on others, it should come when necessary and when efforts have also been applied by the person asking.
When it becomes the habit of always ask , it's very natural for most people to ignore and not respond to help out.
Not asking for help always, unless necessary, has really helped me become my problem solver, given me chance to create and find solutions on my own, without having to call anyone, depend on anyone or even wait for a rescuer.
It creates other options that are within my reach and power. But regardless, I don't hesitate to ask for help when situations get bad and out of my power and out of control.
Also, it teaches me to handle pressure on my own, because I can't always count on others, other people aren't always going to be available to come to my rescue.
There are some pitfalls that come with my attitude of only asking for help when it's necessary and I feel pressured and one of them is the burden I have to carry alone in times I need help, the mental, emotional and physical stress I have to undergo due to pressure and burdens.
In most cases, it causes severe burnout, tiredness and weakness, regardless of the attitude of not being able to ask for help easily, I really appreciate help when it comes genuinely and without call.
The fact that I don't ask for help easily and only ask when necessary, doesn't mean that I don't appreciate help. I appreciate help , learning to reach out easily.
I appreciate help when it comes genuinely and at zero cost. Also, I reciprocate genuine help from family, friends and even strangers.
Yes, we should seek help when it's necessary and when we have tried our means but didn't work out. That was a good advice your friend gave. And we should be willing to help as well as be able to ask for it.
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Of course first option isn't to ask for help immediately s problem arises it's to find ways to resolve. Then results to ask later on
Yes Treasure.
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That is the thing.
I always feel like asking for help will make me a burden to others because the reality is that, people are going through a lot and I don't what the person I'm seeking help from is going through.
Exactly, we really don't know what others are going through, asking for help should come when necessary, not always.
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