Choosing My Path, But Never Letting Go.
Family will always have good intentions for us, they will always draw us back , especially when the path we are about to take seems dangerous and harmful, and that is always appreciated, because it's coming from a place of love and care, but at some point you will have to make your decisions on your own regardless of the fears and uncertainty coming from family.
It's very natural for family to protect us, to us it's seen as a set back, but to them it's coming from a place of love and care . It also a misunderstanding that can be resolved with conversations and setting boundaries, because at some point decisions must be made regardless of what they thinks about it. At the end it's your path, and you can't choose to be stucked because of your family care and fear.
When family tend to influence our decisions due to fear and love, it creates a burden and concerns for us, most times it leads to misunderstanding and certain mistakes.
Even when we try to hide it, you get confuse and skeptical, especially when it involves a lifetime decision.
Sometime, last year a close friend of mine who have been in a relationship for about 3years, with the intention of getting married , when she introduced her partner to her family, they vehemently refused because of a certain believe they had about her partners tribe, I was in the middle of this issue and when I listened to her mom all I could see was love, care and concerns.
It created so much issues, that she refused talking to her parents, I asked her to communicate, and each time she tries, the situations get worse .
At that point, she really felt her family was drawing her backward, but her mom never cared about the years or circumstances she has been through with her partner.
Communication never work out, she tried setting boundaries, but her parents never respected her boundaries, every means to fix things always ended in arguments and clashes, they never agreed to see things her way and at the end she made a decision, we never saw it coming and at that point her parents were left with no other option, they had to bless her union and let go.
Family will always try to influence our decisions, in most cases it's important to follow their path and also decide to take our paths, especially when we are convinced of our intention and also convinced them to understand why we have choose a particular path.
Most times it seems like set back, but then their intentions are usually good , coming to an agreement is very important, because we can't neglect the fact that family is always important.
It's very important to try convince them and makes them understand you, before deciding to leave them behind or sticking to them.
They might be scared, but then you have to choose your path, because at the end of everything, it's your life and every path you choose is also your choice and not theirs, their opinions are valid but if you keep living in their fears you could be restricted from making your decision and getting the best out of life.
If I find myself in a situation like this, I would stick to my path and decision because it's my life .
Thanks for reading ♥️
Vanilla 💗
