My Views Of Surrogacy

yesterday(edited)

One of the most beautiful things I have ever witnessed through out my life is the process of childbirth. Seeing the little guy or girl navigate its way through the birth canal with minimal assistance is something that always brings happiness to my heart. Most times, I cant help it but give a huge smile under my face mask when I am assisting with labour.

Though sometimes, due to pain, and the feeling of not being comfortable, expectant mothers may not actually heed to what the care giver is saying. It's quite understandable.

If I'm asked about an event that is filled with lots of diverse emotions, the one thing that comes to mind is child birth. There are emotions like fear, fear of the unknown outcome of pregnancy and childbirth, there is happiness because the family is expecting a new born, there is also love and hate at the same time. The love that pushed the woman to have the child for the man, and also, hate (that'll last for that moment) because the man puts her in that condition. This is when women swear that they will perform family planning after that delivery, but guess what? Teo years later, they will come again for another delivery but this time, they will be able to fairly endure the pain because of past experience.

Also, there is maternal pain because of the contraction and retraction of the uterine muscles, and also, because of the passive movements made by the foetus to navigate its way through the birth canal.

Honestly, women are trying. Some times, in cases where Vaginal Delivery is complicated by a health issue, Cesarean section becomes the next option. C/S is a procedure where the maternal lower abdomen and uterus are opened up to access the foetus.

Child birth comes with quite a lot of pain. Imagine how painful it is to pass a strong faeces, talk more of passing out a child per vagina. Please, I'm not saying this to discourage anyone from having a baby per vagina. Though in most cases, epidural is given (depending on the stage of labour) to ease the pain.

For some women, they dont actually want to pass through the stress of carrying a child for 9 months, and giving birth to that child, then breastfeed the child for the next 6 months. For some, it's stressful while for some, their schedule may not permit it. Based on this, they go for another option, surrogate.

So, basically, surrogacy is a procedure for child birth I which a healthy sperm cell is collected from the man, and an ovum is collect from the woman. These two cells are fertilized and injected into a third party that is being paid to carry the pregnancy until term, and deliver the baby. However, the carrier will not breastfeed the baby so that there will be no form of bonding between the carrier and the baby. In most cases, the baby survives on artificial milk.

I'm not actually against the procedure, neither do I buy the idea of performing the procedure when I want to have kids.

I see pregnancy as an opportunity for couples to improve their bonding. It is said that, when two enemies have a common enemy, they become friends to fight that enemy. ~ unknown.

In this case, though the spouse are not enemies and pregnancy is not actually an enemy, it is a level that both spouse needs to put heads together and pass through. From my perspective, pregnancy improves the bond of spouse because it draws them closer to each other.

If other forms of fertility are not working and the only option is surrogacy, I will do it. All I will be praying for is that I don't get to see my wife in another light, and I don't fall in love with the actual person that carried my child.

There is maternal pride when mothers say: I carried you for 9 months and gave you this my breast for complete 6 months. If we do surrogate, my wife (to come) will not be able to enjoy that pride, so, I would think deep before I decide to do it

Thank you for reading.