Truth Hurts: A Good Reason To Lie Or Bend The Truth?
We must have seen a lot of movies where a character hides their identity, whether for a good or bad reason. Especially the romance storylines where a character hides their wealth searching for who would love their real self. Even I enjoy the twists and how interesting it can get but then, I believe nobody appreciates being lied to at all.
Growing up, I've had moments when I told a lie to save myself or someone I knew would get hurt if the truth was told. Even though I remember how often I was taught not to tell lies as liars are not God's children, somehow, I can't say I don't tell lies. But one thing I know about myself is I don't find joy in lying and I make sure not to do it often.
I have lived the times where people frown at me for telling the truth when they thought any other person in my position would given a lie instead. I felt bad for saying the truth but over time, I've come to appreciate that virtue in me to tell more truths than lies. Even as a joke, I try not tell lies because I fear lying has become a habit to many.
The truth hurts, even very badly in some situations, but is this enough reason to tell a lie or as some would put it, give partial or incomplete truth (bend the truth)? Someone said "Tell me the truth now so I could start my healing process early enough if it's too hard to bear, I have a long life to live", it's funny but fact.
Even though so many people do not want to hear the truth, it's a fact that people deserve to know the truth so lying to save or please them will not only hurt them later but also could put you in harms way. There are people who can't bear to lie, they suffer emotionally for it after. And some who let fear overtake them and will lie constantly.
Lies birth more lies, there is no better way to say this. Saying the truth saves you from all that hassle, even though I am guilty of the sin of lying, I will still kick against everyone telling lies and trying to justify it. There is no good side of lying, it may have save someone but also put another in harm. I wonder if any lie have gone unheard.
No matter how we try to hide a truth, even the Bible affirms it that it will come out eventually and whoever should have been hurt and healed through it will get hurt and go through the process you tried to avoid when you told the lie. Some lies told have even made the truth harder to accept when it comes out eventually, too sad.
So if you ask me if there's a time a lie can be acceptable? I'd say it's only at that time the lie is told but we will have to bear whatever consequences, mostly they are not good consequences. So it's better to strive to tell the truth at all times even though we know we are not perfect. The truth hurts but time heals, say it!
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Whatever foundation we lay, we need to continue building on it with the same materials. If you start anything with a lie, you must keep lying to sustain it.. funny enough, there is an end to everything.
It's always best you say the truth and hurt the person early so that he/she can heal and know where to place you in their lives than to lie and secure temporary ease that would eventually take everything from you.
Sometimes People makes it look like telling lies is a normal thing, such that they see those who tell truth as evil individuals.. it's sad how our world has become, evil is gradually overtaking righteousness but we can make a difference though.
Lies are just as scary too, as sweet as they sound to the hearer in order to ease a tension or escape an immediate punishment. But over time, we always wish we had said the truth from beginning.
There's no doubt that telling lies isn't an honorable thing to do, as it makes one untrustworthy and destroys one's integrity. Sometimes, we indulge it to save our heads or someone from being hurt, but we still end up in regrets.
I'd prefer being told the truth to being lied to. It hurts more when I find out.
So the best bet is - spill the beans and get it done with. You'll be at peace, saving yourself from the mental stress and hassles that comes with lying.
!BBH
I think same too, it's easier that way for both parties involved although it doesn't look like it at the time the truth is being told.
To start healing process indeed, lol
So fun how it was said but that's true though even though in reality, there are some truths we never recovered from even till death
Here in the hospital, I've seen a woman who was told the husband has died and out of shock, because she just spoke to the husband only for her to get few items from the pharmacy and come back and the husband was already a ghost, she fainted and had mild brain damage.... Someone who was completely fine before the truth was poured on her
Nothing justifies lies but I think the timing and context of telling the truth matters more than the truth itself
My mentor at it again☺️
That's true, many don't recover till death and it's sad. Well, as you've said, some truth have to be timely and well said to not cause a bigger blow on the receiver.
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I can say that no one can boast of his or herself for not having told a lie in one way or the other.
to be sincere, the truth is hard to believe, but I just have to say it to clear your mind. although it can put you in a place you did not believe to be either good or bad. Telling the truth is the best.
It's always the best, it's not easy sometimes but it's better to face it and get it done with.
I also agree, telling lies always comes with consequences. For most people with conscience, it is never something honourable to tell lies but then there are times life put us in a position to do so.
Anyone telling lie have to bear it at heart that they will face the consequences or whatever comes out of it.
Not everybody is a matured enough to handle truth. So most times, we just lie to save them from them self
Lol that happens but we don't hope to be in such situations, the truth saves.
If I tell a life I must have a long term plan for it because my lies should be solid enough to believe for a long time. I think lies doesn't hurt all the time. I don't lie because I don't need to lie but if situation demand me to say a lie, I will say lie confidently as long as it doesn't hurt others.
I understand what you mean, a lot of us are like that anyways.
The truth they say shall set you free and in most cases it does. Those day, I think we were excused from lying but now that we are older, we have to be accountable for our words and actions.
You're right! Some tell lies with no plans to be accountable for it.