Spare The Rod?

This as well is a very sensitive topic, as it concerns parents and their children. And we all have our different opinions to matters such as this. Also, we all have our various strategies and means of disciplining our kids, and some of us who don't have one yet as well have plans in mind as to how to cater for and correct our kids.

While growing up, I happened to get flogged a lot of times, my dad is a disciplinarian and a no nonsense man. Aside from that, we all are five in numbers and we all are males, so you can tell what a house filled with boys will look like. Once we do anything, mum will scare us, telling us she will report to Dad when he returns, and that fear alone is enough for us to act all good and calm.

So, I actually believe spanking/beating/flogging a child helped a lot of us children back then to some extent. Ar least, it helped me to be more careful, responsible, respectful, and honest. And I said it helped to some extent because, there are stages that flogging a child will get to and he or she will no longer mind. Yea, I reached that stage too, when I felt the highest thing that will happen is that they will flog me, and if they do I might not cry, even if I cry, the tears will stop, so what's there to be scared of anymore.... It's the usual.

A lot of children today have become a lot more stubborn from the way we choose to always correct them with the rod, aside from becoming stubborn, some even get withdrawn, and you they find it hard to express themselves. Some have even developed traumas from these things.

At the moment, I teach in a school, counting the months now, its almost a year. And since I've been teaching, I've never for once flog a student, not because they didn't offend me, not because I can't flog them, but it's just because I chose other methods of correcting them. There are times I send some out of the class, other times I give them punishment, but most of the time I talk things out with them. And I often tell them I know I will use a cane on one of them one day, and then they will realize that they were the one that actually pushed me too. But because they never wanted to be the scape goat or want to be the one who got em angry to an extent where I will have to flog any of them, they usually comport themselves and act respectfully when it's time to be serious.

This is not me condemning physical discipline, not at all. Even the Bible says, "spare the rod and spoil the child." So, there are situations when we really need to make use of the rod. When you've talked things out with a child, corrected and warned him/her severally and they still decide to act out of line, then don't even think of sparing the rod... Use it.

What I've come to notice is that most of the parents that beat their children do so out of anger and frustration, one that's not really caused by the kids themselves. So, when they punish/beat/spank this child, they are not doing it because they want to correct them, they are actually doing it just so to pour out their anger and frustration on someone...and maybe that kid happens to offend at that time.

The world has changed and they children of today are way different from the children of those days, so parents need to make sure to train up their child very well instead of depending on spanking/beating a child. There's the place for punishment, there's the place for talks, there's the place for warnings, there's the place for corrections, and there's the place of guidance. But the most important is to train up a child in the way he/she should go, so correcting him/her wouldn't be a big deal if the need arises.

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