SUCH IS LIFE
If there is one valuable but harsh lesson I am learning this period, it is that at the end of the day, shit happens. There are times we can control the events in our lives, and there are times we must accept the things that happen in our lives whether or not we like them or choose them. This is easier said than done because sometimes when shit happens in an area of our lives we never saw coming we tend to act on instincts trying to find ways to fix them. There are things, and people in our lives we do not ever want to imagine losing, and if we are ever in the position where we lose them, it can take a while to be able to fully accept the reality of things. Sometimes we try to fix them and end up making an even bigger mess which puts us in a loop of despair and false hope. Sometimes the only hope we might have will be to accept that thing or person is gone and gone for good.
The pain of this can be immerse, everything around tends to bring back memories, we begin to check where we might have missed something or a mistake that we might have made. This keeps us in an even worse state of regret and before you know we have fallen into the loop I mentioned above. Yes indeed there are things we can change, and there are things we can’t, understanding this will give us half a mind to accept instead of struggling in the loop we put ourselves in. I remember many years ago after I ended a relationship, it took me 5 years to fully recover. Within those years I could not say I knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life and it made me keep to myself and avoid a lot of things and opportunities that came my way then including an opportunity to travel overseas.
Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up, it only makes us see things clearly and make better decisions. Sometimes we allow our emotions and what we want cloud our judgement and we make mistakes that keep us in the loop of despair. I can not say there is a way or a cure, but after reflecting on my life and the actions and decisions I have made in the past, I think it is safe to say that knowing the cause of a problem makes it easy to ask for help. But when we are clouded by emotions we do not want to see what is right in front of us and keep hoping for miracles. This is what keeps a lot of people in bad jobs and unhealthy relationships. I know because I have been there, I choose to allow what I feel I want to cloud what I truly want and because of that I made mistakes. The relationship I talked about is a perfect example, I spent 5 years looking for someone who had moved on from me because I was still stuck in the past or chose to still be stuck and it took a lot of years from me. If we can choose to see things clearly and call them for what they are, we will be doing our future a lot of good.
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STOPTruly! When we allow our emotions to cloud our judgement, we make many mistakes that most times, can’t be corrected. We must be careful, especially in relationships. When we experience such moments, yes, it’s always painful and hard to move on but the earlier we are quick to get back on track and move on, the better.