DRAWING THE LINE, LOOKING INWARD

Humans are one of the most unpredictable species on earth. Something you find very normal another might find offensive, and this is not an exaggeration, it’s a fact. Mind you there are things everyone knows are offensive, I mean these things are public knowledge, but there are those you will never find really strange. Imagine getting gifts for someone and they find it offensive taking it as though you mean something or want something instead of seeing it as a show of gratitude. It can be annoying and disheartening especially when all you were trying to do is good. For example, I got to know that it is rude for a family member to intrude in a couples joke when my partner brought it to my attention. I never knew it was even a thing, until I saw how angry she was about it. It made me realize that there are unspoken rules that we really need to look into, rules formed by people's upbringing, mentality and personality. Understanding these rules will foster great relationships between people.

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But then again there is something else I realize,especially with those who make these rules and easily get angry when people break them. They are more of a reflection of whatever it is that annoys them. For example, a person that gets angry when people make them look small, they try to fight it with everything. If you look closer, you might realize that they might either be small in height, or see themselves as small whenever they are having an inferiority complex. I have realized that almost everyone struggles with this inwardly, seeing yourself less than who you really are in a moment of doubt. When people try to speak to them in a manner that makes them feel that way, they react like a wild lion which is not often anger but a cry for help. These people need understanding more than retaliation because for a lot of them, it’s just a traumatic response. It took me a while to understand this, but when I did, it made me see life and see people in a very different way. But then again, when I get to feel the full weight of this kind of reaction, I am only but a mere human and might respond on instinct rather than with logic.

People will always be different, and even though you try to understand them doesn’t mean they will change. When I am faced with such things I give myself two options, stay or leave. Leave and give myself peace, not needing to put up with those emotions or needing to be too careful around them. Stay if I can really live with them like that. This has more to do with my personality and in as much as I want to understand them, I should be aware that they are not the only ones with the luxury to fully express themselves, and in as much as I want them to freely express themselves, I also have that right and if we must live together my view on whatever they are always angry about matters too. I shouldn’t ignore what I do on a norm because someone hates it. If it is something I can live without, I would easily adjust, if it is something I can’t live without, I will not deprive myself the freedom of expression and thus we must both come to a compromise in order to get what we want.

THIS IS MY RESPONSE TO HIVE LEARNER'S
PROMPT FOR WEEK 224 EPISODE 2