Letting Go Without Burning Bridges

In life, from time to time, we will come across obstacles. Life was never meant to be easy, and these obstacles are there to make it more challenging. They can come in different forms, whether it is material things, friends or even family. Obstacles hold us back from achieving our goals. They are like walls that stand between us and our life goals. Now, it all boils down to how we choose to deal with obstacles. Knowing that they are our greatest threat, do we choose to deal with them or allow them to deal with us? If we don’t take control, they will take over. Sometimes, letting go is the best way to tackle obstacles. Letting go can be very difficult, but if that is what is stopping you from achieving your goals or becoming the best version of yourself, then so be it.

This brings me to today’s Hive Learners’ prompt. The prompt title is : Letting go. What do we do when our families or friends are the ones drawing us back? Sometimes, it could be from a place of care or love, maybe they truly care about us, but they just have different opinions about certain things, and that is stopping you from going forward. How do you go about this?

Sometimes, people truly care about us but their actions set us back. On the other hand, others don’t care about and it is as if their main purpose on earth is to stop us from achieving our goals. About four years ago, I enrolled for a program. It was the first time I left my parents house to start staying on my own. It was also the first time I would get exposed to the outside world. The name of the program is JUPEB, and before I enrolled, I had been hearing rumors about how difficult JUPEB exam is. Because I love good grades, I put in extra effort into the whole thing. I made sure I studied day and night. Everything was going well until I had a roommate. Now, my roommate was not only preventing me from achieving my goals, he was stern on making me change.

From his appearance, he looked like a good person. He had a gentle face and something about him just gave off the impression that he was calm. For the first few months, he was good. We cooked together, watched movies and studied. We pretty much did everything together. Unfortunately, he started moving with the wrong people and It was too late before I figured out what to do. My roommate started smoking. From time to time, he would smoke in the room, play loud music, and get really messed up. Sometimes,I would get so distracted that I wouldn’t be able to focus on reading. He was a great distraction, not only to my academics, but also to my personal life.

I had to let go of that friendship for my own sake. I moved out of the room and rented an apartment far away. If I had stayed, definitely with time, I would also start smoking and I would lose focus. The point is that whenever something or someone is clearly distracting you from achieving your goals, then it is best to let go. Let go before it becomes too late.

On the other hand, there are times when we have to let go of friends and family, not because they're not good people, but because their opinions or decisions seem like an obstacle at the time. Our family wants the best for us. For example, they might want you to study a particular course because they believe it's the right path for you. You, on the other hand, know fully well that the decision isn't good for you. In cases like this, you know yourself best, and I think you should let go of their opinions. Letting go in this case doesn't mean you're cutting your family or friends off; it means you're choosing to prioritize your own happiness and hoping that the path you chose is the right one. Hope and pray that the path you choose in life works for you.

The images in this post are mine.

Thanks for reading through.