WALKING AWAY OR STAYING TO FIX THINGS

I have been in that situation so much that I have already lost count. Growing into an adult, I have learnt that people come and go and even though I feel so hurt all the time, I still learnt to know when to move on. But yes, there are some cases when I’m the one who leaves. The one who got tired of the relationship and call it quits. There are different reasons why I tend to ghost people and that’s what I’ll be sharing with us on this post according to the hivelearners topic for this first edition.

Ghosting people is more like when we leave people without saying any thing. Most especially people we have related well with at some points in our lives. Like I said, I have experienced this a lot before but I’m just going to share one of them with us. I once had a friend who I always wanted around. We usually have so much to talk about when we do, and it was beautiful. I was so such at that point that none of us will ever want to let go of such a relationship but I was wrong.

Well, things got better for my friend and he had to leave for greener pastures. Things were still going fine until we both realized that we now have different goals and interest in live and I had to walk away without even saying goodbye. I’m not sure how this friend feels about it but for the fact that he also didn’t reached out, I’m very sure he has also moved on too.

I do regret it. I sometimes wish I had handled things in a much better way but unfortunately I didn’t. He was such a good friend and I’m happy I got to meet someone like that in my life. The good thing is that things didn’t end up in a messed up way between us but that closeness isn’t there anymore.

Besides that friend of mine, most people that I have ghosted in the past are people that I don’t really have any regrets about ghosting them. It was mostly for me to keep my emotions in check and also for my own sanity. In fact, I had to run away from some of them intentionally and I’m glad they also forgot about me or at least didn’t come after me when I ran away.

I don’t enjoy ghosting people. I love it when we talk things out and end things nicely but if I notice such persons are not interested in listening, I’d rather ghost them than end up starting all over. Because there are some persons that find it hard to end a friendship without quarreling or having a serious disagreement with someone. They don’t fix things before leaving, they just run away. I was once like that and even now but I’m getting better at not running away when it is hard but staying to at least fix things before leaving.

In the real sense, I only ghost people completely when it happens that they also had intentions of ghosting me too. But as long as they are willing to talk, I try to make myself available, if not, I just let things stay that way rather than try to push things knowing fully well it might not end well.

Thank you for reading through. ❤️