BECOMING A STUDENT
So many times I just get reminded of my predicament, it's been over 6 years since I last finished my secondary school and by now I should be finished with my higher institution but sadly I'm yet to see the four walls of the university but almost all of my classmates back in secondary School are all done with their tertiary institution and are even married now.
I made so many wrong choices and now I'm suffering for them I guess. The higher institution here in my country and even else where is a place that people expect you to be in once you are done with your secondary school and if you are not, then you will suffer emotionally and psychologically for it. Everyday I get to see on WhatsApp statuses of friends how they've done their matriculation and even graduation.
The most intimidating part of all of these is that I'm older than most of them and that has made me feel like I'm not lucky and fortunate enough (this is obviously not true though). People keep reminding me of how I should study harder for my next examination and make sure to get into the university because all my mates are there and it just makes me feel like I'm not interested in doing anything for myself.
Most times people don't even talk, just their actions speak even louder than their words. At some point I was so down and I started looking for who and what to blame for my situation but in the end I found no one other than myself to blame because I believe that if only I had done better just once maybe things would have been different. I was going into depression by the day but somehow I just find myself back to sanity (it was God).
After two years of staying at home, I decided to look for other things to engage myself in so I don't get too idle and give room for unnecessary thoughts. I believed that at least if the university was not for me then, I shouldn't just succumb to whatever comes, I should at least try out other things and try to be happy still. Since I was good at making hair, I took that seriously and use that to support myself and my family too. I was busy most of the time so I didn't had the time to make the societal pressure get to me too much.
And even while I was doing that, I still kept trying my best to get into the university and surprisingly I'm still yet to get admission till date. Well, I know that some would expect me to give up but I do believe that I'm going to get my admission at the right time so I'd keep trying until that happens. I know some people might have given up on me by now but I know that one day I'd go home with a certificate as a university graduate.
In all of these, I'm still learning as much as I can on a daily basis and thanks to the fact that I'm now a content creator on Hive, things has improved for me a lot that it's even hard for people to believe that I'm not yet a graduate and that is due to how much I keep trying to improve on myself. Like they say, never let your background let your back touch the ground. I believe that no matter how long it takes, what I've worked for will surely pay off some day.
The only way I'm able to completely combat societal pressure is through the help of God. I doubt if I'd still be sane if not for God, he has always given me the right people at every phase of my life and I do believe that he has a plan for my life so I can't just give up or give in to what people think or say. I know what I want and that is for me to go to the university but that is going to be done as genuinely as possible, I don't want any compromise no matter what.
This is my response to the Hivelearners editional prompt 2 on "Societal Pressure" and I'm glad to have you stop by.
I could relate to your story, I remembered when I finished my secondary school education, my elder sister was still in the university, and it was only my mum paying the school fee, I had to to stay at home for 5 years, because it will be difficult for her to sponsor both of us at the same time. of course I was sad and depressed during that moment, especially when I saw my mate that are done with their university degree. But I as time went on, I don't allow it to bother me anymore, que cera cera, what will be will be. I just have to be patient till and when my time comes, it was like miracle, and I believe it will come your way, I love that you did not allow those things to pressure you.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me, this is really encouraging sis 🥰. I will keep being hopeful and trust in God because I'm sure he has a great plan for me.
Of course, God will definitely perfect everything soon, like I mean soon, keep pushing🤗
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What a read!. We are all different. I tell you. Only those who have been in your shoes can relate. I also experienced similar issues when I was done with secondary school. I sat for jamb about four sittings and waec about three sittings. It took years before I gained admission. I still believed I will study in the school of my choice which God made possible. Glory be to God, Today I am counting years of being a graduate despite spending six years in school.
There was a time my uncle even pressured me, and said discouraging words to me. Asking me to see my cousins in the polytechnic and I am busy working as a primary school teacher instead of furthering my studies. I smiled. Today the story has turned around for better.
So no giving up. You will surely get there and I believe you will and you can. I pray God continue to strengthen you.
Awwn, this is uplifting Abdul, thank you so much for sharing your experience with me, I don't even think I'd experience this much so I'm definitely not giving up 🥰.
Thank you so much for stopping by 🤗
Yeah. I believe it will get better. Once we don’t give up.
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Great post, faith keeps us alive and gives us peace of mind, as they say, we find peace and calm in the storm, as you fight to achieve your dreams, everything will come together to achieve your dreams!!!
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I say a big Amen to your beautiful prayer 🥰. I'm looking forward to better days ahead 😊.
Thank you so much for stopping by friend 🤗
It's great to see how you haven't allowed what the society think of you let you loose sight of your what you want for yourself and your future. You're making it into that university of your choice Hope❤️
Thank you so much for your positive response and encouragement, I'm really grateful 🥰
That's a true and wise saying. I like it and I'm certain that you will gain admission into school soon.
Life is in phases and each person has their own time to manifest their purpose on Earth. That your mates or peers are now graduates or married, cannot stop you from achieving your purpose. Stay positive and keep on improving yourself. You will laugh last.
Fabulous #dreemerforlife
Thank you so much for your encouragement, I'd keep them in mind even as I try to do my best and hope on God 🥰
Thank you so much for stopping by 🤗
That's the spirit. You're welcome
Never back down, never what!?
NEVER GIVE UP!!!
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I won't!
Thank you 🥰
I'm sorry about the whole ordeal, and I'm glad you're not allowing it to weigh you down.
I too had a similar experience some years ago, and I know how it often comes with the feeling of being left behind. Over the years, I've come to realize that life is exactly linear and that we all operate at different frequencies.
It's never too late, and I know you'll eventually fulfill your dream of going to university.
And I must also commend you for finding the courage to write about this. I don't think it would've been easy.
It wasn't easy at first but I wanted to face it, hehe. Thank you so much for your encouragement, I will keep being hopeful and optimistic 🥰
I'm happy that you didn't allowed the society pressure to weigh you down. Never give up
#dreemeeforlife
Yeah, I won't give up 🥰
Hmmm this story of yours is so touching.well let me use myself as an example, I did my waec four good times before I make it. I keep doing it because I believe in myself and I know I'm going to make it. My dear it's not bad to feel like you are tired but the fact is that do not let that get into you , I believe there's time for everything and your time will definitely come.
Good luck to you dear.
Thank you so much for sharing your own experience with me, I only wrote waec twice but getting admission has been the major delay but like you said, when it's my time it will happen 🥰.
First of all I would like to actually congratulate to learning a skill.Most of have certificates but are not earning enough and still are finding ways to earn different skill.
I’m also very happy that you know “at the right” things would fall in place.
Most of my colleagues in the university couldn’t graduate,I think 2 even died and others couldn’t continue.Who knows? Maybe they were at the right place at the wrong time.
So if you believe you’ll get in at the right time,listen to your instincts my dear.
Exactly what I thought to myself, this life there is no need to rush, when it's our time it will be, all we have to do is to always be prepared for whatever is coming.
Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughtful contribution ❤️
You’re welcome
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I'm rooting for you, Hope! What exactly do you need to do before you can gain admission? I pray that God gives you the strength and patience to outlast these trials and that you will be rewarded with entry shortly. Is there a specific University that you are interested in and what are you intending to study when you get there? Sending much love 💗 !LUV !Hug
I got your post in curation this evening... yay!
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At some point I'm even confused because I normally follow all the process that is needed but I guess things just want to be how they are. Now I'm waiting to be given admission to study physiology instead of nursing which I don't really mind.
It's been over a month now and it's still showing admission in progress, I've made some complaint and I was told to be a little patient.
Thank you so much for always rooting for me Sam ❤️, I really do appreciate you stopping by 🥰🤗
aw, hang in there, my lovely, sending love !LUV !Hug
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Oh I hear you! I dropped out half way through grade 9 and then eventually finished High-school through long distance learning when I was 20. Seriously hard work after missing 4 years of high school and going straight into grade 12. I promised myself, from when I was very young, that I'd get a degree in psychology. It looks like that's finally coming together for me. Not fast, but I have a goal to at lradt have a BA by the time I'm 50. Hopefully,even an honors or a masters. We'll see! Go for your dreams!
Wow, that's really inspiring ma'am, thank you so much for sharing your story with me too. ImI'm definitely going to purse my dream and never give up 🥰.
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Great post; thank you for sharing your experience
It was interesting to read
Thank you for stopping by. 🥰