Some Relationships Are Not Easy To Let Go

This is a difficult nut to crack, coming from a place of imagination. Saying goodbyeto people who you have once shared valid interests with is somehow impossible because days and times will come when you forget totally the hurt, and you pick up your phone to call them. Truly speaking, I have many like this as relatives; the major thing I see myself doing is talking about what they are doing that seriously displeased me.

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But do you know the bitter thing about them? They see no reason to even say they are sorry; rather, they want you to apologize to them.Blood, they say, is thicker than water, and it becomes nearly impossible to shove them away from our lives. I have many personal experiences with this topic, but I won't be able to share them all but will give a little from them. Growing up, I was more used to my mother's people than my dad's people. So, we spend most of the Christmas there. Now we are all grown, it becomes almost impossible to separate from them, and they are feeling too important to the point that they feel even our marriage rights should be done there.

Truly speaking, it is not possible to do that because my mom was properly married, so there is no basis for some of these agreements. Imagine, my uncle expects my husband to always call him, while his children's husbands don't bother to call my mom. The kids grew with this entitlement mentality as if they are the only ones that have issues to take care of. Because of all these and more, I decided to put a stop to calls to avoid being bound by laws I cannot relate to.Secondly, one of my cousin's wife's birthdays is just a day after mine. So every year I take it upon myself to call her.

I did this for years without bothering about her returning the calls until I saw that it was a deliberate act by her. For a few years now, she has been the one doing the calling while I wish her a happy birthday in arrears till last year, when I decided to start again.Seriously, it is not so easy to stop a blood relationship, but if it is like friends, it is so easy to do so, especially with those that are anti-progress inclined.

By anti-progress I mean there are people who don't feel happy when others are progressing; they just want it to be that they are the only ones who make a visible advancement. I had someone like that, and I didn't think twice before giving her a good distance because she wanted to be the only one achieving. More to that, our patterns of things are just widely apart from each other. Remembering that saying, "Show me your friend, and I will tell you the kind of person you are," I decide to give a permanent gap.

Another aspect to this in the place of child raising. We have a pattern of caring for our kids, there is this boy that came to stay with us sometime last year, trying my best to make sure the boy have a good standard which can be accepted not only in his locality becomes nearly impossible. I will teach him how to do basic things but when he gets home his parents will teach him their own ways which is not too okay, it was a serious issue for me and almost bringing clash between us. Lastly I decided to let go as I make sure the negative influence is not impacted into my kids

I do wish you a happy new week and pray your dreams come true. This is my entry for this week's contest, first edition. Thank you for reading.