We Are Meant To Love Each Other

Hello Hivelearners, how are you doing? When I saw this contest, the question that came to my mind was ‘do bad people hurt their loved ones?’.
There was a man that is called ‘piko’ . His house is not far from me. We know him as a dangerous man, he is a tout, and a thug. At times the way he speaks to people is very bad, he speaks rude to people especially if he is drunk. He doesn't have respect for the elders, and for the young ones.

One day when I was going out, he saw me and said “this boy where are you going?”
I knew if I replied to him, it may not end well. I don't have the power to fight people and talk more of a thug. I realized silence
As he was getting close to me, I was increasing the rate at which I walked.
He said, “are you not the one I'm talking to?"
I knew it won't end well, I ran; that was the end.

Piko is a man that always beats his wife almost every week. Something, he beat his wife to stupor; sometimes, his wife fainted while beating him.
The convincing aspect of it is that he had three children with the wife.
I began to wonder what made his wife still live with him despite him always beating her.
I began to wonder maybe it is love that makes the woman stay with him up till now.
Something also came to my mind that if he loved his wife, he would not be beating her like that. Because, according to me, love is peace, long-suffering, patience and happiness.
Could it be life that makes this woman not to divorce her husband or there is something else I don't understand.

According to information gathered, many people advised the woman to divorce her husband so that she could have peace, but the woman did not.
When I was coming from work, I witnessed a day that he beat his wife and locked her outside. The older kid was the one that later opened the door for his mother.

The moment I saw this contest, I deduced many ways we can reduce the act, and they are:
Separation
I heard a man beat his wife and mistakenly injured her one eye. After several diagnoses and treatment, she could not see with that eye. She uses only one use to see.
And there was a man that kept on fighting his wife, to avoid being injured, she ran away from the house after 3 years of marriage with two kids.
She left the kids with her husband and ran away for 2 years. The husband began to send people to plead on his behalf for her to come home. After several times of pleading, the wife's family came to the conclusion that any time he beat her, he should never ever beat her again, and he agreed and pleaded with them.
That was the end of it!
The man stopped beating her and loved her the most. I believed if the man separated from the man, he would come back to his senses.

Divorce
Seriously, I cannot continue with such a relationship or marriage. If I were the woman I would have called for mutual agreement to end the marriage. I cannot be in a marriage where there is no happiness. If I break a leg during a fight, I would be the one suffering from pain.
The man will be enjoying his life, I don't like toxic relationships. We are meant to love each other

Keep distance from them
There was a young man who wanted to be my friend. He always visited me and always liked to talk to me.
His behaviors were so bad; he could fight with anyone. He doesn't care if he hurt anyone. The way he spoke to me, I knew it would be very hard to deal with. I knew I couldn't be his friend because it was so obvious. He was so rude, arrogant and bad.
I started to keep my distance from him. Whenever he came to my office, I told the security man to tell him I'm busy. The security man no longer allowed him to come to my office, he could not see me for three weeks.
That was how I distanced myself from him.

Fight Back
There was a couple I heard their history from, the woman abused and maltreated her husband. Sometimes, she would beat her husband.
Though, her husband could beat her but he refused to lay hands on her.
Whenever an argument happens at home, the wife would start beating him. She thought the man did not have power or was afraid of beating her.
The last day she stopped that habit was the day her husband beat her and she was taken to hospital. Since then, she could not dare to raise her hand against her husband.
There are circumstances where one should let his friend know that he/she can fight but I refuse to fight.
It happened to my friend: his friend thought that he could not fight until the day that he fought back. Since then, he began to respect him

We Are Meant To Love Each Other
For me to be your friend, I have to love you, if I don't love you, I don't need to come close to you.
It is an obligation for a man to love his wife, and wife to love her husband. Also, friends ought to love each other.
I can't risk my precious life because of a toxic relationship or family or friend. If something happens to me as a result of a toxic relationship, the problem will be for me alone. For me, whether you have been in a relationship for 15 years or married for 20 years, the moment it turns into a toxic marriage or relationship, I quit. I cannot allow anyone to take my joy and happiness away from me.
We are meant to make each other happy, smile, laughing and loved.

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