There is no friendship in business
In my years as a business person, I have learned and unlearned so many lessons that it is hard for people, or should I say customers to trick me anymore, One particular lesson that caused me so many problems in the past is taking my business leisurely with close friends and relative until I was taught the hard lesson, and now my slogan is "there is no friend when it comes to business" if not, they will wreck your business down due to over-familiarity, not caring that your business is run with money and at the end of the day, each business is meant to bring profit.
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Now I hear them say, I take my business too seriously, why won't I? After all the pain I went through at the hands of evil friends that almost ruined me because of my show of kindness towards them, in my mind, I was helping a friend, while in theirs, they don't care about how you feel or what the business goes through to keep running. I will be sharing with us an event that made me come to this conclusion.
I'm a fashion designer, and I also sell different types of fabrics, as this is another way I bring in more customers to myself. One day, a friend of mine(or so I thought) approached me to make different outfits for her and her family, She was attending the housewarming party of her elder sister who just arrived from overseas, but the problem was, she said, she could only afford to buy the fabrics but not the sewing fees, that I should help them make the dresses, she would pay me as soon as she arrives from the party, off course this goes against the rule of every business owner, she should at least make a down payment, I refused considering the stress and the materials needed to make the outfits, she kept pleading, saying I should remember she is my friend, to cut the story short, she brought quarter of the total payment
which cannot even cover the cost of making the dresses, as she still needed to pay 75% balance. For the sake of friendship, I made them the outfits and saw how glamorous they looked at the event through her WhatsApp status.
A week she promised turned to weeks, and she wasn't picking up my calls or replying to my messages although, after the first week, she said she wasn't back yet and would stay an extra week, after a month, I couldn't take it anymore, and the worst part was that I didn't know her new place of residence because she recently moved to a new location. Fortunately for me, I saw her husband drive by a popular bus stop, I halted and greeted him, asking about his wife, "my friend" he said she should be at home now, Without letting him know my intentions, I asked that I follow him to greet my friend and know their new location. We arrived, and she was so shocked to see me, her elder sister was present too, she didn't know how to hide her face, I thought of exposing her but kept my cool, through my short discussion with her sister, she had lied that a bigger fashion house made their dress, as her sister was in Lagos to patronize the fashion designer that made their dresses, I quickly introduced myself as the fashion designer that made their dresses, showing her some of my works, also making sure I left with my balance, I was so pissed at her for repaying my good deeds with evil, but it all bounced back on her, as I got a better deal from her sister which she paid in full.
That experience made me never to mix business with pleasure, meaning, when it's business, it's business whether you are my friend or not, before you take home any job done for you, you must pay in full, and so far has been sustaining my business.
As for my relationship with her, we still get to see each other and talk, but she knows now that I can never repeat the same mistake I did with her before.
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Of course, that should be the case. It is business after all, not a friend, or eveN a family. Even to my Mom's business, I pay for the goods that I get. You spend not just your time and effort in it but also a lot of money, so expecting a profit is not bad. The family and friends should be the one supporting you, but seems like they are the one who will destroy it. Aigooo. That's not a friend. They just treat you as a friend because they need you. It is sad but, letting them go is the right thing to do.
You are one of the good persons we have who understand this concept, that business is business, because of all it takes to make it grow, and the main purpose of business is profit.
I don't let anyone take advantage of our relationship to ruin my business anymore, I learned my lesson.
Thanks for this awesome comment.
So wicked of her. You see that "I am your friend na" when it comes to business, I don't buy the idea. Till they wreck your business, they won't stop coming and the worse part is that you cannot try it with them. Always taking advantage of something they will never accept. You took a nice step to collecting your balance back.
Yea, sis, it's always business mode at all times now when discussing business, and when we are done, I can switch back to friendship mode.
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Wow
This is not friendship at the slightest ooo. I believe most people who would like to call themselves friends are only there for the added advantage.
That was a bold step you pulled ooo. Not only did you get your balance, you also got yourself a new client. Kudos to being bold
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I have heard many times that "Personal life and professional life should be isolated from each other". In the case of business, I also think that we need to handle it in the way of business. Personal relationships should not be included with business. In your case, I think you were lucky because in the end good things happened to you but every time you won't be lucky.
Some people will never give same energy they did when they took money from you. That's so bad
At least you learnt your lesson now
This reminds me of a friend I helped to make her wedding dress and her bridal train dress, she didn't pay completely to date and even lied that her aunt made the outfit for her, Many people are so selfish and lack conscience, now I don't care if I know you before when it's business, it's business no strings attached after business comes to pleasure.
In business, there is no need of making any deal without following business terms. We should trade anything with exact rules, we have. I 'm sorry, your friend deceived you and have not received your fully prepared designed stuff. At least, you were lucky by showing your skills and traded it with her sister. Here, I came to know you are big business designer, have a good day.
People can be extremely devious in nature, I wonder what she stand to gain by not fulfilling are promise, she must have felt like she could play you and get away with it all in name of friendship.
I wonder why she needed to lie about the actual fashion designer that made the cloth, what was all that for? I don't think such a person should even be considered as a friend at all.
If you didn't smarten up, she could have diverted a potential customer to another fashion designer.
Some people like to take advantage of what they can never accept in their life that your friend is a bad person.
Sure friendship should be after business one thing i understand is you call someone your friend and you will hurt they person
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I actually learned from my uncle. I noticed working on the farm with him (his farm) harvesting crops, no mater what the season. Now as a kid/teen and that my uncle was my mother brother I worked for free. But my uncle also had a few hired hands that he paid. And what I noticed was from day 1 that my uncle had no problem yelling at me, making fun of me, calling me stupid and so much more. But his paid workers he treated with respect. I was noticing the difference how I get treated like shit even when the hired hands caused the problem. The hired hands cause a problem I would get yelled at for that problem.
I left Portugal when I was 19 years old. And I remember my last day working for my uncle. He tried to open his mouth and I socked him in the mouth. He fired me on the spot, lol. I wasn't on any payroll for him to hire or fire me. I was doing this as a favour for my mother since he was her baby brother. Still today he is missing his 2 front teeth. You welcome tio Joao. His oldest son tried to fight me last time I was in Portugal to revenge his father's front teeth. I just told him to be careful because if this does turn into a violent fight, i promised him he would never walk again for the rest of his life. He is lucky the bartender and friends stopped the fight. I was going to hurt him. And I did hurt him, and now I found out his yopunger brother want my ass too. Come and get it cuz. I will be in Portugal next summer of 2024. I need this to end now.
Ever since then I never mix friendship with business. I keep them strictly apart. And if my friend needs something from me that is aprt of my business he/she has to pay just like a customer. And if I need something from their business I want them treating me as a customer. We help each other out not by doing things free. We pay them so they can bring food home for their families. Thye pay me so I can do the same. My friends can tell me all they want how they are my friends, I am the one who judges that, not them.
Money Talks and Bull shit walks. Let the bull shit walk my friend. And the other thing I noticed is I lost some friends because I didn't mix business with friendships. I look at it as it just the way it has to be. I am a loner, not many like me, but who cares. I just need my family to like me. But it safer to be a loner than knowing 100's of friends. I have only 2 friends ever since I got to Canada. They acceopt me and the rest of Canada doesn't. But I still sleep at night very good. I'm not here for friends. I am here to leave my next generation of family set up to survive. The rest of the world I don't know them so who cares.
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