Maturity in Conflict Resolution

Arguements, fight, disagreement whatever you name it is something we would always find ourselves in one way or another as long as we still relate with people, no one is an island, you were born into a family, and it's not even necessarily strangers we disagree or have arguments with, siblings fight, and as much as this might sound weird to the singles, married couples also have their disagreement period, and it their reaction thereafter that determines what happens to their marriage, friendship or relationship.

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I've always been the kind of person that doesn't know how to keep malice no matter how bad you hurt me, but trust me to bear my mind, maybe in a very strong and loud way depending on hoe close we are and the gravity of your offense, but after that outburst, it all fizzles away but the reaction I get most times is the receiving end still replaying what just happened in their head and probably want to maintain their lane so as not to make me get upset again, when its all in the past for me now, and I even feel more free to talk to you now when I've let everything out my chest.

When I see people fight I often wonder how less control they have over their anger to engage in physical fight, I've only engaged in fight once and that was early in my secondary school days trying to stand up to a bully, I only received one slap that saw me seeing stars round my head, lol, it didn't take me more than that to know I wasn't one for that kind of lifestyle no matter how angry I get, the best I would do is bare my mind or simply walk away which I've found myself doing the more as I get older, some might think walking away is for the weakling, but no, I see someone who walks away as mature and able to control their emotions.

I recently moved from a very toxic environment, where if I hadn't been mature enough to stay silent and ignore trouble makers, I would have probably ended up getting dirty with the pigs. I hope you understand what that means. What has helped build this character in me to be able to ignore trouble makers is my intentionality of being Christlike. Sometimes when I get provoked, I simply ask myself what God would expect from me as my reaction, and most times it is aiming towards peace or fleeing from evil.

If it is a situation that can be settled, as we can't always walk away, especially from families, friends and loved ones, the best thing is to be the bigger person and communicate your feelings in the calmest way that doesn't turn into violence making them understand your perspective and you also hear them out, that is when mutual understanding is restored, say sorry when you need to and that way arguments can easily be settled.

The main reason why some could go for weeks or even month keeping malice with someone is all because of their ego, but when you realize that you are only punishing yourselves bottling up such ego, as an heavy mind has no peace, so it's only best to aim towards peace by simply walking away or communicate, understand and reconcile.

Thank you for reading.❤❤