Forgiveness a journey
Good day, amazing people of the Hive Blockchain. Welcome back to my blog. It is another edition in the #hivelearners community. I am so delighted to participate in this week's prompt, 'forgive and forget'.
People will always say, 'Forgive whoever wronged you.' It’s one thing to forgive; it’s another thing to forget the person. Most times, the untouched can forgive, but you never forget the person that wronged you. Whenever you cross paths with the person, the wound becomes new. Believe me, forgetting is so hard. For you to forgive someone, you must be able to tell yourself that you have to let go of the grudges you have been holding.
Forgiveness is not easy. It only takes a true heart to forgive and forget. You may be thinking it is easy to forgive, but not until someone wrongs you will you understand that forgiving is a hard thing to do. It is very hard to forgive if the person who offends you is so dear to you; it is always worse when it comes from someone you trust. Even if you try to forgive, it will be very hard for you, and when you forgive, it will be very hard to forget.
People have always hurt me, but there is this particular betrayal from a friend so close to me. I was bitten by a friend I trust so much, someone I share my secrets with, and she snitched on me behind my back. Even in my wildest dreams, I will not believe that she can hurt me. God being faithful, her lies backfired on her when she realised that she had messed up. She came to apologise to me for the wrongs she did for months. I find it hard to forgive her; each time I flash back to how she damaged my reputation, I don’t see reasons to forgive her.
All that came to my mind is maybe she thinks I'm a fool or weak. After hurting me, you just walk up to me, shedding crocodile tears, begging for forgiveness. I swear it was not easy for me to forgive her; it only takes divine intervention for me to forgive her. The moment I forgive her, I realise that there is this inner place in my mind that I have deprived myself of for months.
Forgiving is a journey; it takes time. We should be able to let go of grudges because the more we hold on to them, the more we will be stuck in one place, and we will find it hard to grow. The word 'I forgive you' may sound easy, but believe me, it is never easy to let go of someone who hurt you.
Forgetting is another strong one; someone may forgive you but can never erase the memories. To be sincere, it is not easy to forget someone that hurt you so deeply; whenever you see the person, you must flashback to the past. Forgetting is impossible because from time to time you will remember; you can only forget completely when you have amnesia or you have a mental disorder.
Of course one can exist without the other. I can forgive you, but I didn’t forget. I still hold up the memories. I forgive you because I need peace of mind, and I remember because I don’t want to make the same mistake in other ways. I am being careful and wise. It is okay if you don’t forget that why you are human is that it is very hard to erase the memory of someone who hurt you.
This is my entry on the weekly prompts #hivelearners #hl-w178e2 topic forgive and forget.
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Yes we can forgive but forgetting is something someone can never erase. Imagine we try to forgive and forget that means we are making room for it to repeat. But if we forgive and never forget that means we're protecting ourselves from the same mistake not to happen.
Spot on! Forgiving is cause I want peace for myself and not necessarily cause of my offender. Forgetting is just a different ball game. I have a memory for a reason.
Forgiveness indeed is a journey, it takes a while but it is possible not to feel the pain again.