Marriage and Age: A matter of Choice, Not Law
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There has been a lot of controversy about topics regarding marriage, and one of the topics that people have different opinions about is the Marriageable Range.
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Some people prefer to marry a partner who is more older than them, they prefer the age range should be above 5 years and it can go as far 10 to 15 years, they believe such a partner will be matured and also be able to guide them, they are right in some cases but the thing is I don't believe that maturity only comes with age, Yeah I accept that the older you become the more experience you become in certain thing but that doesn't guarantee you are matured... We have older people who behave immaturely, while we have younger people who are more mature and emotionally stable than a grown adult. It all goes down to accepting your responsibilities.
Some people prefer to marry their age bracket because they feel they would be more free with them, the way you will talk to your partner who is the same age with you is different from the way you will talk to your partner who is ten years older than you but again we have some relationship that beat all this theory and when you see some partners you will think they are same age bracket whereas the husband can be 10 years older than the wife.
In the world we are now, especially in my country. A 21-year-old lady sees a 21-year-old guy as a small boy when it comes to being in a relationship, funny how it sounds. The reason is because a year 21 year old lady is kinda ready to settle down with a man but a 21 years old guy is just starting life, he need to grow his finances before he can think of settling down, Most guy tend to be ready for marriage in their late twenties and can go as far as late 30s and 40s because they prioritize financial stability.
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A rule that determines the age bracket we can get married to will only lead to chaos, and here are my reasons below.
Losing out on Potential partners: Genotype has already caused a lot of Havoc in people's lives, those with the AA Genotype don't know what God has done for them because many people have lost the love of their life because their Genotype didn't match, and going along with it is a threat to the life of their unborn children... I have a friend who got heartbroken because of Genotype. Now imagine if a law is passed that we can't marry someone who is a certain age older than us or our age bracket, this will only lead to more heartbreak and poor choices in partners.
Infidelity: When there is a law that stops people from getting married to the person they love due to age difference, it can lead to a high rate of infidelity... The law can stop people from getting married to their heart's desires, but it can't stop them from cheating... When they get married to someone they don't love because of the law, they can still meet up with their ex, which is something that happens a lot nowadays.
Make things unbalanced: If a law is passed that only age bracket can get married, it makes things not to be balanced, it means a man of 40 needs to marry a woman who is also 35 -40 years and we all know that men and women are not built the same way, a 35 years old woman can't be compared with a 20 years old lady. Ladies are advised to give birth at an early age to avoid complications. Men are like fine wine; they get better with age, but it is not the same with women. Once a woman clicks 27, they starts getting worried about marriage issues, unlike men, who can still be unbothered about marriage at 40 years.
Comparing it to the law that state same age bracket can't marry, we have some men who became successful at an early age of 19 -24, such a law is unfair for them because they won't be able to marry their age bracket and can't marry those below cos they are still underage, so such a law does not make any sense.
Such a law puts pressure on people.
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Yeah. So many older people who behave like children. Though in a way just like you stated, it is a matter of choice. Actually myself I prefer a older male because when they start getting old it becomes a problem for some of the ladies that get married to younger partners.
Thanks for sharing
Yeah, I also think a lady should marry someone older than them, because men and women do not grow the same way, but in the end, everyone with their own choice, but our choice seems to tally🙂
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I strongly believe with you that, Age is not just an assurance for maturity. I believe that if we make it a rule for marriage range, then this is not a marriage again. So, it is important we allow people love them self and settle down with each other...
Love should be prioritized, not law or Age.🙂
I agree with you, so many adults are children in adult skin, they are so immature. But in the context of marriage, choices matter. I prefer someone within my age bracket with whom I can be free, who wouldn't remind me of the age gap😏
so many adults are children in adult skin, they are so immature😅
It is true that someone far older than you will always remind you of the age gap, either as a joke or when you have a dispute, lol.
I witnessed that with my sister's husband, in every situation, he will remind her of how he's 15years older
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Definitely funny on the part about a 21 year old guy considered a small boy 😂😂😂. Putting an age bracket for marriage doesn't really make sense on many angles, it's too restrictive and fails to account that we all have different timelines and circumstances even when we share the same age.
You nailed it man.
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Truth be told, our society, culture and even some families are the source of the reasons why some marriages do not last, I said that because people are no longer marrying who they really want to marry because of what family or society will say. Imagine a 25 years old lady saying that she want to marry a 50 plus man because that is the love of her life, her family will sit her down and tell her to change her choice because no body in their generation have done such. I just believe that people should be left alone when it comes to choosing who they want to marry. After all like you said, some elders still have a childish behaviour which means that age should not be a factor once both parties are matured.
you get it man, many people are in a wrong home because they care so much about what others will say.
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It's well
Deep down, I was waiting to read how you would respond to this prompt, and here you are, perfectly crafted to my understanding.
The issue of Nigerian ladies seeing their male age mates and calling them small boys is something that amazes me till this moment.
But then it is well.