..... We are no longer the people we were.
If I had to describe the average human, I would say we are like sponges, especially given how our experiences shape so much of our identity.
When people are young, they are carefree, innocent, easily offended, and easily forgives.
Kids enjoy sugar, playing in the dirt, and are unconcerned about being smelly and crying for short periods of time while remaining happy for longer. These attitudes will quickly fade as they enter adolescence and eventually become adults.
Adult & Kids comparison
Adults are, in some ways, the polar opposite of children. Adults (except the careless ones) prefer to spend their free time working to earn money, using their phones, and worrying about bills, responsibilities, and the future.
An adult is a compartmentalized version of a child, and the irony is that children want to grow up as quickly as possible, whereas adults want to return to a time when they do not have to pay bills and someone else is responsible for their care.
A teenager is somewhere in between.
Teenagers are in the experimental phase of life, and they prefer to spend their time outside.
They do not want to be controlled by their parents and want to experience the freedom of living alone.
However, they quickly realize that there is nothing fun about wanting to be outside all the time; they soon realize that freedom comes with responsibilities, and this knowledge can only be gained through the lessons they have learned as they have grown into adults.
The typical responsible adult is constantly alert, worried, weary, concerned, and stressed, and is always wary of the consequences. Notice how I mentioned "responsible"?
That is because people who are not responsible adults do not care about it; they do not want to take control, they do not want to deal with the stress of life, and this is always the first big mistake that some adults make: they take their foot off the gas, and the consequences are a lifelong lesson they have to live with.
Paying bills is one of the most important aspects of adulthood.
It's never fun, but it's inevitable
...especially with others (immediate nuclear family members). However, this is not an anti-adult agenda; rather, it is a fascinating concept about how people can easily transition from being blank slates to becoming different people.
It is similar to how a character evolves in season one into a different character. The stages of change are often referred to as character development. These people become different as a result of their experiences, as if they have shed skins.
In some television shows, these characters are given cosmetic changes, such as beards or going bald, to demonstrate that they have undergone time-telling transformations.
Character development
In reality, people undergo transformations without having to go to the gym, grow a beard, or go bald. Adults' internal transformations can be more powerful than we realize.
A lot of us wish we could be kids again, even if it does not mean we go back to being stupid. Most of the time, wanting to be kids again means going back in time and enjoying the bliss of being free, correcting past mistakes, and turning back the hands of time.
However, these are for those who had a blissful childhood; regardless, life was far better, externally, back then, and it felt like people in the 1980s experienced the unadulterated bliss of life, despite their technological limitations.
Money is always the game-changer
One of the changes in our adult lives occurs when we start paying bills.
Paying bills requires us to make money before we can pay, and the process of making money completely transforms us. People's attitudes can change as they try to make money, and these changes were not always present. What we do to make money has a significant impact on us.
The hustle of life can transform us into people we never expected, which can be sad. We can lose friends because of money, people we used to know, the relationships we built, and the life we once lived.
People no longer want to associate with others; working nonstop or looking for greener pastures can transform people into unexpected versions of themselves. I still believe that we are all sponges, meant to absorb; we are all like blank slates, and we usually start off on a positive note.
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Adult spend their time thinking about bills, responsibilities, and the future is 100 percent true.
The main problem is money, if there is money, then bills and other responsibilities wont be an ish and adult hood will be something most people look forward to.
You're right, money easily make adulthood easier, but without it, it feels like a slow grind. Responsibility that are easily taken care of, by money is one of the most bothersome, and men loses their mind over bills and this can bring depression and other mental issues. I don't really miss my childhood, I must say it was traumatic for most of the time.
Change is the one constant we have in life, whether we like it or not. As we hit adulthood we realize that life is rough, and you have to work to survive. I've changed a lot even in the past few years, that's all part of life. It would be nice if life could be about focusing on a passion and make a living, but it seldom works that way!
I do miss some of the good old days of the 1980's, life was simpler back then before all the tech we have today!
Yeah, it's inevitable to hit adulthood no matter whether we want it come quickly or slowly. Since I hit 30, it's been stressful. Perhaps it wasn't hitting that but maybe the number losses and the pain that came with it.
It was quick better in my early or mid 20s I wouldn't say life was good, but it was simpler and not so much of a burden.
Yeah, I hear a lot that the 80s was a nice time to be in
That is so true, when you are kid you look forward that number on the cake to increase and increase over and over... When you are adult you want that time back... As a kid you have nothing to worry about me except do good at school and have fun, as an adult you have a home to carry on and possibly a family you are responsible of
The world has always rotate around money and will always do
Exactly, kids just wants to do well at school and then have fun, although a lot of kids wants to grow up fast, so they can enjoy adults privileges, unfortunately these privileges comes with responsibilities and most adults cannot cope with it because it can be stressful, but it's what it is, people grow up and it's inevitable
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Life changes quite a bit. I miss the days when I was a kid and I didn't have to worry about all those issues. You were more worried about what you didn't have. Then when you have to start paying taxes/bills, you find that life is quite different.
Yeah with pays that comes with living as an adult, you tend to realize that life isn't a fairy tale at all. Somehow, I only miss some part of my childhood because life was simpler.
I remember thinking my parents were so lame for wanting me home by 10pm. Now I'm 28 and in bed by 9:30 voluntarily. Adulting shows you discipline when you're paying your own bills
Yeah, I think kids or teenagers generally wants to rebel, but adults don't, because they've been there, done it and don't want to do it anymore.
😂😂 absolutely, don't want to do it anymore
Seriously this irony is real... when we were kids we crave desperately to become adult now we are adults wishing to be kids in some sort of way.... .. life is just a cluster of irony.... and its funny how complicated life gets
To be fair, it was easier to be kids, even though we wanted to be free at all cost. Yes, it's all ironical. At some point in our lives, as wish we can switch places with our younger or older selves.
😆.... very true man..but then we only forward in life, time lost cannever be regain ...it all flows away like the current of water ....
So true man. Though I'd add that some of us never really grow out of playing in dirt and crying over small things 😅 maybe that's why gardening and rom coms are so popular with adults lol
Well, I think the reason is because we want to relive some of the memories of the past and that's why we indulge of some of the kid stuffs we did in the past.
you're right on that
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