Stop Dwelling on Your Wounds—Start Learning From Them

Turn your wounds into wisdom.

We all have regrets, moments when we have made bad decisions, times we have been betrayed or disappointed. Some people respond to these wounds with unending blame and, worse, settle on these past pains. To some, cursing over these wounds brings comfort, while others learn wisdom from them. How we respond to this pain determines what we make from each brokenness.

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Each person who comes into our life leaves either a lesson to learn or a memory to remember. They all come to serve a purpose: one helps us understand how to relate with certain people, and the other tells us how both good and bad memories can coexist. A young child who has not experienced the other side of life always believes it's easy to have our needs met. Children only cry when they desire food or certain attention, and they're given without knowing the sacrifices their parents go through. But as they grow older, they begin to realize that life doesn't happen on a platter of gold. Wounds in an adult's life are the lessons.

However, every wound comes with a lesson—a wisdom that only the bearer of such pain feels. So instead of ranting endlessly over wounds and pain, why not turn every one of these wounds into wisdom? Wounds give us a platform to learn and an avenue to grow past our previous knowledge. Wounds are meant to make us wiser, but not everyone takes the chance. Instead of asking questions or having careful thought, they hold onto the wound and manage it. Instead of blaming wounds, we ought to turn our wounds into wisdom if we desire change and growth.