The societal pressure surrounding marriage | LOH #288
There's a view society has that marriage is the end goal. This happens more to women, even though it also applies to the men as well. Most people, especially in my society believe that marriage is the ultimate achievement.
As a result of this view, people end up putting pressure on themselves to get married. Their family and friends begin to put pressure on them to get married. The popular question "when will you get married" becomes frequent.
This leads to people jumping into marriage when they're not ready. Either they jump in with the wrong person or they jump in when they are not ready for that level of commitment.
Sometimes, people live their lives in anticipation of just marriage as an ultimate aim. For some, after marriage, it's as if their ambition ends. They give up any other dream they had.
In other words, there seems to be that rush to get married because of the pressure from others. The ones who are not married see others who are probably of the same age bracket getting married and they feel pressured. It's what society has designed.
Also, society tends to give someone more respect once they find out the person is married. It's like a silent rule. It's as if the marriage title earns an automatic respect tag.
I'm not saying that marriage is a bad thing. Far from it. Marriage is beautiful. Marriage is worth it. The joy, peace, and fulfilment that comes with it are worth it. However, I'm of the opinion that it's not something that should be rushed into, it shouldn't be the ultimate goal, and your ambitions shouldn't end because you got married. You shouldn't stop dreaming after you get married.
It's possible to rush out of a marriage the same way it's possible to rush in. This is why one should take their time to ensure that they're in it with the right person, for the right reason and at the right time.
Marriage is a serious thing. Something meant for the long term. That's why it's absolutely important to get it right and not conform to societal norms or pressure.
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I'm sure everyone recognizes the institution of marriage as one of the many points of pressure for young people, especially women. In many parts of the world, women are raised to aspire to marriage, which unfortunately makes them attach so much importance to the Mrs. When they don't achieve that, they begin to feel like failures and society mocks them all the same. I agree that men are also victims, however, rarely policed.
I do hope that in the future, our perspectives will shift to raising children to become adults who do not need marriage to feel complete.
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