The Forge: From Breaking Up Fights To Breaking My Excuses. LOH #286

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At the moment, I'm a Corp member, and as a Corp member in my country we are being assigned to work at different organizations, be it a bank, school, companies, ministries, and the likes for the space of a year.

For me, I was posted to a school to teach, and as a corper and teacher that I am, I've witnessed this with my own very eyes countless number of times, I mean bullying. I've noticed how some of my students suddenly go withdrawn in class, I've seen some shiver at the presence of others, I've seen some refuse to go out during break time all because they've been threatened by a fellow student.

So, when I began to notice all of that, I took action. What prompted me to take action was because of a boy I noticed is always silent in class, after engaging him in a conversation I got to understand that he's being a victim of this bullying of a thing. It got to an extent that he couldn't even look at anyone face to face in the eyes, he was either looking away or looking down.

And like I was saying, I took action. I didn't let it sound like I was being told anything because this bullies can still go at the back outside of school hours to threaten their victims again. So, I started using some part of my periods in their class to talk to them about respect, kindness and the usage of words. That was how I began to take control of things and moved into talking about things like bullying either with words or physical engagements.

And I was glad I was able to talk it out with them, even though I had planned to involve higher authorities or even the civil defense if it persist/if I'm not seeing changes. Some of them even came to me to open up about why they turned out that way, some of them were once a victim as well, and I tried my best to talk to them about it while telling them that there's no advantage or benefit in what they are doing.

Now, if I am a parent... With what I've seen and experienced, first off I would have made sure that the kind of relationship I have with my children is one where they are free to communicate whatever to me... including their fears. So, if my child comes to me to tell me about being bullied in any way, I would listen to him/her, get every details needed and take action immediately. I would let the school know about it, and if possible involve the authorities too... Because my child's safety is important and he/she can only learn in an environment where he/she feels protected.

Also, as a parent I would make sure to instill in and teach my children confidence and self worth. I would teach them to never look nor act weak. To not be a bully, to not be violent, but to speak up when needed, to seek help when needed and to not suffer in silence or keep things to themselves.

In light of that, I would as well love to talk about this second topic, because immediately I went through it, a movie came replaying in my head. And it will interest you to know that the movie that has this much impact in me isn't an horror movie or comedy movie. It is a Christian movie titled..."The Forge."

It was done by the producers of Overcomers, War Room and the likes. And they are known to deliver. I'm saying this first because I would love you to watch any of those movies. I can vouch and recommend it.

The movie happens to confront everything in me. It was about a young man who was just drifting through life and all, and along the line someone came in to confront him and his comfort with making excuses. This person who came into his life was the one that forged him like the title says, into a better individual..

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We all know the process an iron goes through if it's to be mold into something, it undergoes fire, hammering and shaping. And that's it with the lessons from the movie too, that we can't get a result without going through some processes, we can't be successful and impactful by sitting down at a place and making excuses for ourselves.

So, another lesson from that movie is that, who we surround ourselves with matters, and that no one, absolutely no one will fix your life for you. You need to get up, be serious, disciplined, take correction and be guided into fixing things for yourself.

Like I said earlier, that movie confronted, challenged and made me question every single thing in me. I began to think if I was really growing/improving or I'm just here existing. And I discovered that, at a point in ones life, it's necessary to step into that fire(life), to get hammered and to be shaped/forged into something better.

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