FALSE HOPE
I remember years ago, although an adult, I was still very young. I had ended things with my girlfriend, and when I tried to fix it because of how much I loved her, she accepted and later dumped me. The pain from that breakup lasted for a very long time, in that time I wasn’t thinking about any relationship, and for the next 5 years I just focused on my growth and development. It wasn’t easy for me then because apart from the fact that things were hard for me and I was hiding a part of myself from the world and I did not even realize it.
It took five years for me to realize that I was hiding a part of myself from the world and that I really needed to come out of the illusion of love I was in. She had blocked me everywhere and I spent the last five years searching for her so I could beg her to come back. Yes it took me five years to realize how dumb I was, and when I did, I began to go through that break up phase for real, I began to really feel what it meant to lose the love of my life and accept that she was gone for good.
When I see people go through this denial phase, I understand because I have been there myself. It is not easy to go through. It takes a lot of courage to accept that something or someone you cherished with your life will never be a part of it again and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. It is way easier to be delusional and give yourself something to hope on to, but at the end of the day, it’s just false hope and they are never coming back.
THIS IS MY RESPONSE LADIES ON HIVE CONTEST #287
