ENDURING THE NONSENSE #280

Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we have to manage with people because of the love we have for them, but then again, there is a thin line between enduring because you love a person and letting them take advantage of you simply because you choose to love them. I have been in both and the latter is something I do not wish for even my enemy. Because I have lived it, I understand what those in abusive relationships go through and how they see the person they love who still abuses them.

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Some might think it’s a matter of loving yourself first or just leaving, but the truth is that if these two come easily for you, then you never really loved or you never really committed to the relationship. When it comes to something you have spent time building, something you saw a future in from the beginning, your first instinct will always be to try fix it, not run away, but that is usually where things begin to escalate from because as you start fixing it, you can lose track of how much time, and energy you have expended and when you realize your efforts are not yielding results you become dissatisfied not wanting it to be in vain until you finally choose to cut your loses.

I have been there, manipulated by a lady I once loved alongside her family. It went on for months and I could not even talk to anyone about it. I knew they were using me, but I had invested so much into the relationship to just pull out. I am not someone who quits when things go wrong, the more she kept saying she would change, the more her mum kept meddling in our business and making things worse. It was clear that no matter how much she claimed to love me, her mum would always have her heart, so when her mum told her to leave me again and she did, I had to make the decision not to accept her back. To be honest it was a hard choice and it took me months to heal from it, but I did heal at the end of the day.

THIS IS MY RESPONSE LADIES ON HIVE CONTEST #280