Letting Go Of The Life I Thought I'd Have. LOH#287
Hello Ladies, Happy New week.
So One thing I had to let go of, and I did not even realize how tightly I was holding onto it was the idea of how my life was supposed to look by now.
So you know that picture that you quietly build in your head? like by your mid or late 20s, you should have things figured out steady money, clear direction, maybe even settled in relationships, just moving smoothly like life has a manual you followed correctly, Yes… that one.
Well ... I held onto that for a long time.
and at some point, I started noticing that my real life wasn’t matching that picture, things were slower, messier, more confusing than I expected plans did not go as planned, some opportunities did not work out, and certain people I thought would always be around slowly now became distant or they completely left.
At first, I didn’t want to accept it, I justkept telling myself, nah, I just need a little more time, things will still align, I was low key chasing a timeline that didn’t even exist in reality, just something I picked up from society, social media, and watching other people’s lives, but the more I held onto it, the more frustrated I became
It started feeling like I was failing at something, even though deep down I knew I was actually trying, that is the annoying part, when you are putting in effort but your results don’t look like what you imagined, it messes with your head.
Letting go of that ideal was not one big moment, It was gradual.
Little by little, I started questioning things, like, who even set these timelines? why am I comparing my life to people I don’t fully understand? why does it feel like I am behind when I’m actually moving at my own pace?
I won’t lie, there was some disappointment in that process, it felt like I was grieving a version of my life that never happened, that kind of realization hits quietly, no noise, no drama, just you sitting with your thoughts like, Okay… so this is what my life actually looks like.
But something interesting happened after that.
I started feeling lighter.
When I finally stopped trying to make my life fit into that picture I started to like where I really am, I began to pay attention to the things that are going well. I saw the growth that I did not notice before, I realized that I am still standing, still trying and still figuring out my life, I am still trying to make the best of it, My life is not perfect and I am okay with that at least I am happy that I am still moving forward still taking steps and still learning new things, i like the fact that I am still standing, still trying and still figuring out my life one step, at a time.
And honestly, that is real life, as a man in my late 20s, I think one of the hardest things is accepting that you are still a work in progress.
You want to have it all together, but life humbles you in different ways. It teaches you that growth isn’t always loud or obvious, sometimes it is just you learning how to adjust, how to let go, how to keep going without having everything figured out.
Letting go of that perfect timeline didn’t mean I gave up on my goals. It just meant I stopped punishing myself for not being where I thought I should be, and that shift? It changed everything.
Now, instead of trying to get a certain image, I'm just working on making my life make sense, even if it doesn't look like what I thought it would.