Friendship, Growth, and the Bitter Truth About Change

Change is one of the most constant things in life, either intentionally or not, it'll surely take place in different aspects of life, one of which is between human, like friends or family, who at one point you seem inseparable and in the next, it's more or like you're begging for attention and makes you wonder if what you had in the past was truly genuine or they'll just having you around because they needed someone at that point in time. I've find myself in this situation on several occasions with friends and trust me when I say it can be very hurtful, I can't also deny the fact that some friends have told me to my face that I've changed and that's why I'll be telling you two experience that align with both scenarios.

Change is one of the most constant things in life, either intentionally or not, it'll surely take place in different aspects of life, one of which is between human, like friends or family, who at one point you seem inseparable and in the next, it's more or like you're begging for attention and makes you wonder if what you had in the past was truly genuine or they'll just having you around because they needed someone at that point in time. I've find myself in this situation on several occasions with friends and trust me when I say it can be very hurtful, I can't also deny the fact that some friends have told me to my face that I've changed and that's why I'll be telling you two experience that align with both scenarios.

Fortunately for him, after about a year, fate smile on him as he got introduce to a new job that thrive so well to the point where tide turns around for him positively, of course I was happy for him, during these period he's financially buoyant to the point where he no longer send his wife to come to me for money or food. But unfortunately for me, not long after that I lose my job and after month of trying to survive on the little I saved, I was down to zero level.

So I seek help from my friend, but each time I ask, I realise he just kept on giving me excuses upon excuses, even when I know he has it, and I can't help but notice that this my friend has completely changed, I mean this is someone who we were so close and always spend time with me, but after my ordeal, it's more or like he find way of keeping the distance, after some time I got the point and stop trying, although I was disappointed, but I understand I wasn't doing my own help because I want him to help me later, I did it because it's the right thing to do.

On the other now hand a situation when someone told me I've changed was almost about few months after we graduated from the university, during my undergraduate days I had three roommate and we were all very close and never get tired of being in each others company, however after we graduated, we created a group on WhatsApp, so we can all stay in touch, but one thing the others notice was that I wasn't so active in the chat section like I use to be during my school days, I also hardly check up on others and so one of them called me and told me what he noticed.

To be honest, I wasn't surprised about the changes and neither did I feel hurt when he said it, I just had to let him know that I'm actually not doing it intentionally, stating that I've actually been an introvert from onset, and while I find it comfortable to chat with them because we were all so close, the group consists of different other people I'm but use to, and so it's kind of difficult for me to come there often, I also had to apologise for not checking up on them, saying it's not even because I'm jow rich, because I wasn't, it just that I got so carried away with the current demand of life at that moment, that I forget to do the needful.

I apologise for everything and promise to do better going forward and to be honest I did change after that call, although it might not be like they were all doing in the group, but it was a significant different compare to when I only read messages without saying anything.

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