A Tale Of Two Cultures.

Culture they say is the total way of life of a group of people. Basically culture is that law which encompasses traditions that governs our shared activities especially in terms of morals.

While the cultural practices amongst various tribes differs, it is worth noting that there are certain things which these different tribes have in common. Some of these commonalities include marital rites on brideprice, penalties on adultery, a generally acceptable way of living with right to life and property.

The other day, my friend and I were discussing about the cultural practices of our different tribes and while I shared mine with her she said my ancestors must have operated a matriarch kind of tradition. According to her, that’s the only reason why my tradition would favour the women more than the men unlike hers which favours the latter more.

During the course of our discourse, she went on to share some of her cultural practices with me some of which includes;

Once a woman is married, she no longer has a place in her ancestral home or that of her parents. The implication of this practice is that no matter what happens in her marriage, her maiden family would not mind her as it is expected that after marriage, she's now the responsibility of her husband.

You see, such women are also not entitled to any inheritance in her maiden home as she's no longer considered a part of them. This is why the marriage rites of women in such cultures are usually very expensive.

Whereas in my own culture, marriage does not limit the woman's access to her maiden home as she's always welcome. She's also entitled to inheritance as much as as her brothers and if ever she's in distress her parents and relatives takes it up with the husband not having much role to play in the situation.

Indeed, it was such an interesting conversation we had that day as she was even more intrigued when I told her that in my culture, adulterous women do not directly face the wrath of our ancestors in metting out the consequences of adultery. Instead, it's either her husband or her first son dies as a result of her adulterous act. Basically, such usually happens when the husband is aware of his wife's affairs but chooses to turn a blind eye

Again, in other cases, we have the woman's lover going in for it with his life. After my narration, my friend was perplexed as she could not relate. Usually, in her culture adulterous women die mysteriously and it is assumed the gods or their ancestors killed them. In her bewilderment, she questioned, "so you mean the women go unpunished?"

I laughed as I responded necessarily and went on to inform her on how the penalty is for the woman to pay a fine to her husband's kins men and then kill a goat for the gods of the land.

When I was done talking, my friend had a good laugh as she said a patriarchy system would never let such culture see the light of day.

Truly, we all have our different cultures and traditions uniquely crafted to suit our existence. I remember attending a Kalabari marriage and I immediately fell in love with their marital rites.

As I stood there watching the brides family avail and inspect the boxes of luxury wrappers, expensive jewelleries and other sophisticated gift items (all of which belongs to the bride), I couldn't help but wish to be married in such a manner when my time comes.

A little confession is that the feeling to be married in the Kalabari way was stronger, when I saw the bride's older aunt handover the brideprice to the bride (instructing for her to do it with whatever she pleases).

Sadly for me, my tradition on marital rites do not give me such opportunities.



Image is mine

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11 comments

It's true that we all have different cultures and traditions. Wnat you believe in your culture can be different from mine.

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yeah and that's the beauty, it's uniqueness

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It's true that when you hear about other tribes way of marital rites, one gets perplexed or either to wish to be in such culture.

I remember seeing a marital rites on the social media of a lady sitting on her father's laps. I can't really remember the whole scene but commenters kept questioning the action

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You see that kalabari tradition, I so much love it. I love my culture cause it's almost same thing with there own just that no luxury box of wrapper

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ohh lol mine have the box of luxury wrappers but the monetize it and give it to someone else or sometimes they remove it πŸ˜‚

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Okay

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So many different rituals in the wedding in one country? that should be interesting to experience!

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πŸ˜‚ there are about 371 tribes in Nigeria and even amongst these tribes their marital rites are different lol. I'm guessing it's one pattern of marital rites in your country?

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It depends of the religion of the person mostly. There are different rites according to their religion. Or even if it is only a civil wedding it is different from a christian wedding for example.

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Thank you πŸ™‚

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In marital rites every culture have different ways and according to their tradition.

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yeah

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Cultures serves as guides to our steps.

Meaning that out cultures assists us to present chaotic living.

Knowing that there are restrictions and controls to certains things we do gives us a sound roadmap in our life's journey.

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true... well said

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Omoh. This one is strong o. πŸ˜‚ Honestly, I do not concern myself with such things because I frankly do not care and also, as you may know, I was rejected by my dad. So, I honestly can’t concern myself with such but it is a beautiful thing to see. I love a good display of culture even if it’s not mine and I love listening to cultural norms and traditions both from mine and other places.

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Very strong my sister πŸ€£πŸ˜‚.... Sorry about your experience with your dad sist. I hope he maintains the same energy when you are about to be married and not come for a brideprice he had rejected the bride for.

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Lmao. Normally. I already have insecticide πŸ˜‚

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I trust you my love 😘

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Thank you 😊

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In as much as we all have different culture i respect every other culture because the are unique our culture shape us as well.

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true.

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