Keeping My Struggles to Myself

Each and every individual has ways of handling issues and challenges they face; some prefer to share with friends to get help, while others resort to their family, and others prefer to tackle their challenges by themselves, meaning each individual is unique, and just because one method suits and works for Mr. A doesn't mean the same would be the case with Mr. B. I myself fall into one of these categories, and today I'll be telling you all about it, why I prefer that method, and the impact it has had on my life to date, so without further ado, let's get to it.

For me personally, as an individual, I'm the type of person who always prefers to deal with my problems on my own; it's not like I don't value the input of people and the possibilities of helping me quickly salvage the situation, but then I've got an ideology that prevents me from running to people for help, except when it's really necessary and beyond my capacity to sail through such challenges by myself: making me have the belief that some struggles are best handled internally, and that has made me find comfort in dealing with things myself, by thinking things through and finding a solution from within.

There are several reasons why I prefer dealing with my issues by myself rather than asking people around me for help, and one of those is the fact that I don't want to become a burden to them, using my life as a yardstick. I've come to understand that life isn't entirely a bed of roses; in fact, beneath the roses are thorns, making me understand that everyone has their struggles and their own battles they're facing, and I don't want to add mine to the mix, leaving them overwhelmed because some won't know how to turn you down, so rather than be a burden to them, I'll just prefer to face my battles head-on on my own.

Another reason why I refrain from sharing my burden with others is because I believe no one truly knows how the pain or situation feels like, like the person experiencing such a situation, and with that knowledge, I'd just rather look inward for help than seek external opinions. Another reason is because gone are the days when they said a problem shared is a problem half solved; nowadays a problem shared is often the talk of the town and could even go on to become worse due to the backlash and things that follow, and since I'm not the type who likes being the talk of the town, I'd rather hold on to my challenges and deal with them than share them with someone who'll share them with another till it becomes a public show.

However, despite my stance, there are some challenges I face that prompt me to seek external perspectives. Depending on the situation or challenges, it would determine who I'm confiding in, maybe family or a friend. If it's a family situation or deep, then it's best I share such with family, as I won't want a situation where my antics would ruin my family's reputation in the public because I shared my problems, but if it's related to my personal struggles, growth, career, and the like, then I'd reach out to a friend I can trust within my circle.

Overall, like I've said earlier, I prefer handling challenges on my own, so you can call me a self-reliant individual when it comes to tackling challenges, and that's because I have the belief that not every problem is worth sharing; a simple personal reflection can help sort things out, and if at all you need to seek help, then it's best to do that wisely, and that's about it for now on this subject matter.

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