From Overthinking to Letting Go: A Lesson in Being Laid Back

I've been an overthinker in the past, as I would always worry a lot about things, even to the extent of breaking down in tears. When in situations at that time, I would take time to think and worry about it which then would leave me in anxiety and numerous negative thoughts. Of course, this would ruin the day for me because all in my mind was how to get out of the situation, including the ones beyond me.

Most times, I struggle in making decisions on my own because I used to think, what if it didn't work as planned? What if everything crumbles, and I always replay scenarios in my mind, having to second-guess my choices. But whenever this happened, the words from my sister would echo in my heart, "Stay calm, Busayo. Don't worry about it. God will take control."

Sometimes, I wonder how she did it, like having not to worry as she was always assured and would believe all would be well. I realised she learnt early how not to worry over things especially ones you can't control. She was always relaxed even when the situations felt overwhelming and challenging.

Despite these soothing words, I still find myself overthinking that it would affect all other things for that day. I always thought I could control things, and those things that are impossible to control, I force myself to make sure I did something but it doesn't always work out.

It was later I stopped overthinking, and today, I would say I've been laid back, especially realising that God is always in control and that He understands and sees our challenges. Now, whenever situations arise, all I do is relax and sit back instead of letting it take over my thoughts. I don't stress too much over things, knowing I can't control them, and would instead go with the flow.

My last experience was an event that tested my ability to be laid back. I was informed of a program in my church where I was told would give a speech to the teenagers and share my experiences and stories with them. The truth was, I wasn't given a topic but had to find one of my choices, prepared and rehearsed well for it, and I was confident and ready for it.

A few minutes before taking up the stage, I was told to give a different speech, one I hadn't prepared for. Initially, I started overthinking every detail - what if I didn't do well? What if the teenagers were only there to pick my mistakes? There were lots of "what ifs" but I quickly reminded myself that I had the skills and knowledge to handle it.

Thankfully, I got some stories that flashed back in that instance to back up my claims. I took a deep breath, trusted my preparation and delivered confidently. I never thought of giving a good speech because it wasn't something I prepared for, unlike what I had used days to get myself ready for, but it was a moment I had to fight overthinking and embraced a more relaxed approach.

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