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RE: Sam’s Hangout #112 - “HONESTY OR HARMONY?”
Very deep and thoughtful topics to treat. And honestly, I can't wait to read our different opinions about it.
- I remember one of those Sundays school I attended while I was still growing up and we were told there's nothing like half-truth and white lie 🤥. A lie is a lie, and the truth is the truth, a lot of argument was up then, some were like you can decide to not say the truth and at the same time not tell a lie.... We humans sha 😂😂
So, now about telling the truth even when it hurts, I believe some truths must be told. The truth even though it hurts at times as proven to save people from some deep pains they could have fallen into if they were left unsaid. I knew something about a young lady some few years ago, and I couldn't just bring myself to tell her husband about it, they were newly married and I cant be the one to destroy the home. Even though I kept quiet about it till now, something inside of me Keeps telling me i should have just let the man know, my way of approach should just be very calm and matured, just that I don't know how he will take it on his end too. The man really deserves to know, such a caring and lovely guy he is, but then I couldn't bring myself to talk.
- For this, I as well agree that some truths are better left unsaid. Yea, when we do our calculations and go back and forth in our thoughts and it's very obvious that such truths if said can destroy, damage, and mar a person, business or a relationship then its best to just keep silent.
While in school, there's this woman that sells provision and stuffs, her husband works in another state, so he's rarely around. But each time the man comes, he do get things for us, we joke, play whit and ludo and the likes, he's a free person, not the type that you know... At times we sit the whole day with her wife in shop and he's less concerned, that's the level of trust he has in her, but we knew this woman is cheating. Most of us knew. I never talked to her about it though, and nobody said anything to her husband, even if nothing happens to the marriage, with how much the man loves his wife, he might develop heart attack or something on that spot if he knows.
In short, this woman herself later ended things with the guy, they didn't fight, but she just thought about it and she knew her man does not deserve that which she's doing. I'm not saying silence will always bring peace, and if it does it won't last, the best thing a person can do is to change from their wrong ways. If you say the truth about something, apologize for it, if you're forgiven, then don't go back into that thing again.
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I see the angle you're coming from, and I understand your intentions to protect peace and avoid unnecessary damage. But I don't fully agree that silence is always the best option when truth could hurt.
I still believe that if something serious is known early, especially in a situation like in your school days, withholding the truth doesn't really remove the damage, it only delays it and in some cases may make the matter worse. Keeping the man in the dark makes him leave in a false reality for a very long time, and if he eventually discovers it on his own, it may even hurt him more knowing that his so called friends knew but did not speak.
It is true that truth should be handled with wisdom, and that not every situation needs immediate interference and not every details needs to be exposed carelessly. But there is a huge difference between being discreet and completely hiding something that can affect someone's life deeply. So we should not avoid truth just because it will be painful, expecially when it concerns someone's life and future.
Huhm, yea you're right and I very well understand you too.
I'm just of the opinion that certain truths are better left unsaid and withheld.
Also, the way it's been said truly matters, because I remember a man who was told something some few months ago, just recently ooo, he got to know about a thing and that was how he developed High BP, the man later died, and the other party who was involved(his wife) had continued with her life...
Also, there's this issue of a man who was told about his health status, this man was doing very well before he knows whatsup with him, but the way the doctor he visited told him of his situations and all, the man coughed right there and gave up the ghost. Even if he will have died, I'm sure it won't be that day, if the doctor has been wise enough to calm him down and tell him calmly, in very simple terms and encourage him without making him scared. It is his health, accepted but we can't always say certain things the way they are.
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