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RE: Sam’s Hangout #114 - “PARENTS AND UNSPOKEN FEELINGS”
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Giving my response to the the second question, in my own way I'd listen to my children without immediately fixing or judging them and even trying to compare them because from what I know and what I have seen, I believe that children will stop talking and begin to hold back when honesty brings lectures and all these unnecessary talks. And secrecy is not rebellion, it's protection and that is one of the reasons why most children hide what they have learned is not safe to show you
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My mum once told me a little story about my childhood. She said I was very stubborn and because of my stubborness I do get beaten by her. She said most especially when I'm being asked questions, I will know the answer but refuse to say something. So she concluded it was due to stubborness. She said even after beating me I will still not say anything.
But she had no idea I was actually scared. Scared of being punished incase my answer is incorrect. So recently we were just having a mother to daughters gist and flashed back memories. That was how she found out I was actually battling with anxiety at that age. In fact i told her a lot of things I wanted to share with her so badly then.
Let's just say the world is advanced now. While some parents are trying to listen to their children the society call it bad training. why? because it didn't involve beating especially when the child is disrespectful.
Being disrespectful is different from when a child have so many things to talk about and needed someone to talk to so badly.
I don't even know if I'm on track cause I haven't read the topic.😂😂😂 I will come back to correct any errors.
It's really important to listen to children without judgment, the moment you judge kids, they get scared of opening up...
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Sorry about that, I believe that your mum didn't know about it and that was why she beat now. Now that you know better, same mistake won't happen when you have your kids
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I once have a baby boy living with us before and he's exactly like that. I remember beating him so well one day when I knew he actually knew the answer and refused to say anything even after trials and beating. I think I get the cause now
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I just read the part that you're stubborn and it's okay for me. I'll leave the rest for others.😌
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I totally agree. Active listening without judgment is an effective tool that draws children closer to their parents. I'm glad you will be utilizing that and I hope the future parents here will do just the same. Happy weekend!
Yes! I'm also glad and I know better now. Happy weekend! Make sure you enjoy this weekend
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Is this 2cent or 4cent, enh namie 😎
Just take am like that brotherly hehe
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You're right my sister, sometimes we don't need to start scolding them immediately expecially when they report their feelings to us.
That is just the way to go around it. But I be brother oo🙂
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Happy weekend bro.
I've always disliked the comparison thing and encouraged people not to. It doesn't really help. Yeah.
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