Love session with an amazing couple. Sit tight and enjoy!

Woohoo!! Here comes the last challenge on LOVE from Dreemport for this month and this time around, we were told to find a couple that has been married for a long time, interview them and let's hear how the journey has been. I would have loved to interview my Grandma on this but she is already late. Perhaps if she had stayed a little while till this challenge happened. Lol

But....I found an amazing couple whom I spent some time with while interviewing him about his journey into marriage and how love has been the bedrock. There are a lot to learn from this amazing person and I am glad he allowed me and even permitted me to share his pictures online.

So, hey guys. I am your host for this session and I am Princessbusayo. Here with me is a wonderful guest I brought to the show. He is ready to share some tips with us. So, all I want you to do is grab some popcorn, perhaps some coffee so you don't get to sleep or feel too weak because we all gonna learn something.

Without wasting much of our time, I would gladly introduce Mr Olawale Oladoja on stage to share with us his journey. Oh sorry, he has an account on Hive which makes him a true Hivian just like us. He is no other person than @olawalium 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Mr Oladoja is a Nigerian who is now based in the U.K with his family, married to a phenomenal woman and has a little adorable kid called Dara. Check the sweetest couple and family ever with their love which keeps blossoming. Their marriage will clock 5 years tomorrow.

I have got some questions and you will be reading live answers from him. He has given me the go-ahead to share his love journey and experience on the blockchain, and guess what guys? You will be learning a lot from this man as he shares some dose of love with everyone out there.

So, Mr Oladoja, let's move straight to these questions for our readers to enjoy and be entertained with.

The Host: How did you first meet?

Mr Oladoja: We met during an event organized by a mutual friend who happens to be my own Church member but the guy is a long-time friend of her. The guy created a WhatsApp group and it's from there everyone conversed. I didn't notice her until the day of the event when she anchored it.

She came from Lagos for the event and the event was in Ibadan. She didn't go back to Lagos after the event. She stayed back and was a first-timer in my Church. I saw her face for the second time that day and when the pictures of the first timer were released by the media, I saved it and sent it to her privately after picking her number from the group. The rest is history haha.

The Host: What was your first impression of each other?

Mr Oladoja: My first impression of her was that she was very outspoken— she still is. She's too energetic and she was all over the place. She was fearless, bold, sound, and fashionable and her smile could melt a heart made of stone. I saw how she was able to make things work. She was and still is, a good organizer.

The Host: When did you know that you were falling in love?

Mr Oladoja: We built up the friendship first and we chat and speak a lot. The moment I knew she was the one was when I always had the burning desire to speak with her after I was done praying at night. Her thoughts always creep into my heart and I saw her for who she is; real, simple and I saw the wife in her even when she didn't see it in herself back then.

The Host: What are some of your favourite memories from your time together?

Mr Oladoja: We have quite a lot but I wouldn't single anyone out to be honest because every memory either good or bad gave us the leverage to get better and bond more. Every memory is unique and I have to admit that the collection of every memory is unique which makes it hard for me to pick any.

The Host: What is the key to a successful marriage, in your opinion?

Mr Oladoja: Someone said that love is when you have to always say you are sorry and mean it. Marriage is like soup; everyone would add whatever they like to make it suit their taste. What you like in your stew might be different from what I like adding into mine but I would say that a successful marriage would be between a blind husband and a deaf wife. It means as a man, you have to overlook a lot of things and deal with her in love by explaining things, and as a wife, you have to ignore what everyone is saying and focus on what you can see, address what needs to be addressed and stop trying to fix what's not broken by projecting the problems of others in your marriage.

The Host: Is there any advice you would give to couples who are just starting?

Mr Oladoja: Take your time. Marriage is a "crime" that requires two accomplices. It means you have to make your decisions together and stop involving others in your decisions. Take advice from others but it has to be what you both want that must be agreed on. Stop pointing fingers at each other when something goes wrong. Learn to be on the same page.

In my tribe, we always say: whoever says "I am not the one shamed but my friend" it's that person that actually lacks shame. It means when you hold someone dear, you suffer their mistakes with them and that's how to grow. We live in a world where everyone wants to pass blame and absolve themselves. The issue is, in marriage, you have to always present a unified front if not, you wouldn't stand a chance.

The Host: What has been the most challenging part of being married?

Mr Oladoja: Most people struggle with the idea of being married. Most people want to live single while still being married. The challenging part for me was that I like my space. I like being on my own but I had to understand that in marriage, it's not my space again but our space. I can have a "me" time but I still need to understand the feelings of my partner too. I had to learn how to include her and have her in my space. I had to make decisions and explain them which I wouldn't have done if I were single. What I am saying in short is, being married, your life isn't technically yours alone, you have to think about your partner in any decision you want to make.

Oh wow...Did you just enjoy those answers? I do! These are inspiring tips about love and how to sustain one's relationship/marriage. One thing that is important before choosing a partner is to seek God first. Let Him choose for you because if you don't, then, the marriage won't last. This doesn't mean that when you allow God to choose for you, there won't be any issues. In every marriage, there are always disagreements, arguments, misunderstandings etc, but it would be easier to resolve them on time when your marriage is built on the foundation of Christ.

Another major thing that causes issues in marriage is that partners do not want to carry each other along. They have forgotten that the word 'single' has been changed. It is not about "you" anymore but "we". My pastor said something oneday while treating the concept of marriage in one of the Sunday school topics. He said, marriage is not "myself alone" but "ourselves". Everything you ever done as a single then has to stop once you get married because both of you are now one in Christ and things must be decided upon together.

Partners shouldn't decide and assume without involving the other party, such a marriage will collapse. Do things together. Share things. Fight together. Settle it together. I am not married yet, but I know some things about how to live happily in marriage. I pray that may God give us our partner who will care, nurture, look after us, and go miles with us. Amen.

I hope you have something to take away from this interview session. All pictures are for the interviewee and I have been permitted to post them.

Thanks for your time on my blog.