TRANSFER OF AGGRESSION; HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT?
It was a busy/stressful day for me yesterday starting with laundry 🧺, mopping, shopping, cooking, and cleaning my kitchen. My weekend is always super busy but then, my busy bee started even before the weekend and amidst my busy schedule, I still attend to my duties as a wife and a mother. My husband on the other hand has been so occupied with his site work (civil engineering work) and so stressed as well.
However, there is this one thing that most women complain of and that is men transferring aggression to their wives or any family members at home after getting upset in their place of work. Well, some people say that it's common, others say it's a normal thing but to me, it shouldn't be. Whatever happens out there, should not be brought home to negatively affect anyone. Even if it should be brought home, it should be as a discussion and not the other way around. Now, let me share a practical example with you using myself as the case study. Yesterday happened to be the day I experienced this transfer of aggression hot, hot 🔥🔥 from my husband and the experience wasn't funny😂
When a man is angry, there is no room for him to process any information rightly and the best you can do is to let him be...give him some space while he heals from any kind of upset and if he does, that becomes the right time to address any matter. I am the type that always calls my husband to check on him each time he left to work and yesterday, I did the same but he never mentioned that something was going on wrong in his place of work. So upon his arrival at home, I greeted him and after some minutes ask him a particular question, omg...his reaction was not funny...I couldn't believe it, I was like this is not my husband...he overreacted out of nothing and that's because of what transpired in his workplace... honestly I felt so bad considering the stress I was going through all day as well but then, I had to apply wisdom in handling the matter.
How Did I handle mine?
I waited for some hours to be sure that he is relieved of whatever stress he went through and also to be sure that he is calmer and no longer upset then I approached him to express myself, letting him know that he was wrong about what he said about me when he was angry. He accepted to be at fault and apologized. Now, had it been I was dragging to be right or wrong in the midst of his hot emotional state...it wouldn't have gone well with both of us, but a little patience was able to calm the raging storm.
I understand we are all humans and can be upset at any time thus transferring aggression to any available person around. If you are the one on the receiving side like I was yesterday, consider exercising a little patience before resolving any issues to avoid escalating issues when you can handle them.
This is my life story and I do hope you learn one thing from it.
Thanks for reading!!!
Do have a lovely week ahead🧡👍🤗💖🥳😍
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I used to do this a lot and would regret it but something I do is to apologize and listen calmly to whatever the person was trying to say.
You acted well and I love it ma. If you had brought it hot immediately too, it could even go worse.
Though, it's not good to bring your aggression from anywhere to affect another but should be settled even before coming home or meeting someone who knows nothing about it.
My dear, people will know the right thing to do but some times they act as a mere human they are. It becomes important that we use the right approach in handling such any time it happens.
Glad you no longer act that way.
Thanks for visiting 🤗👍
It´s my pleasure.
Yea, we are all humans after all, akthough transferring of aggression is bad, we can't help it most times, and the way you applied wisdom not answering at the heated moment is a good example for all to follow.
Thanks for sharing dear.
Awwwwwn 🥰
Thanks for your nice contribution here 👍🤗
One of the thing I don’t like is people transferring their aggression on me🙁. Like am I did one that did that to you and It’s annoying to me.
But I must say I love the way you handle your husband😌.
You are one wise woman😊❤️.
Awwwwwn 🥰
Thanks for the compliment mercy dear
We will keep learning to be before. We are all different and approaches life differently.
It will be alright Las las
I almost lashed out on someone in church yesterday. I was damn stressed and this guy was being too bossy. He's just like that and I was really irritated with his attitude. though I Knew it was the stress I managed to keep my cool. I'm not known for getting angry always but I will say one way to deal with this transfer of aggression is to take two steps back word followed by a deep breath when you feel irritated by people who didn't cause you to get angry.
This happens mostly when people are stressed 😂
Your tips are nice
Thanks for stopping by 👍
You are welcome.