FEELING REJECTED? THERE IS A WAY OUT!

Rejection is inevitable. It comes to people in different ways, however, the feeling of being rejected is always too hard to deal with. It could be your business proposal that got rejected, it could also be relationship, competition or perhaps a friendship request. Whichever situation you got rejected for, I see it as an opportunity to re-evaluate and scrutinize different paths, probably you might get a better opportunity.

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Let me share with you my rejection story, and how I coped and overcome the hurt.

If you have been following my blog, you must have known me as one who engages in different kinds of business just to make ends meet. Living in Lagos state Nigeria, you need to hustle to meet up with the cost of living. I love it more when I can assist my husband with numerous financial loads and this is my driving force to engage in some legal business, striving for different streams of income 👌

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I had a business chit-chat with one of my close friends and she told me how the cleaning job has been paying her big time. At first, I didn't pick an interest, I was like how on earth can I go and start doing a cleaning job at this stage in my life considering a lot of home responsibilities? Then, she told me that to do a cleaning job, you must not necessarily clean yourself, just get the equipment/materials needed, hire professional cleaners and then source for all these developers that build new houses every time, negotiate with them and if they are good with your price and services, then you are good to go!

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That sounds interesting and boom, I keyed into the idea, bought some materials needed, contacted some professional cleaners, and went hunting for a client who will give me the cleaning contract. Luckily enough, I found one within a short time. The man and I bargain the price and reached an agreement. I requested an advance payment at least to cover some materials we will be using but he said that money 🤑 wouldn't be a problem and that we should start first. Hmmm, as a beginner who is looking for clients, I didn't want to say no but rather organized my workers to get ready for D-Day. The day came and I took the young guys to the location, just about the time the guys should begin their job, the client looked into my face and said we should not worry! I am changing my decision.

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What! Is that a dismissal or what? He said he doesn't want the service again from me and my workers and that I should bear with him. No valid reasons, he just rejected my service just like that 🥲.

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Was I able to cope with this rejection?

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Of course, I did cope with it. Though I felt so hurt, then I told myself that rejection is not a certificate to stop trying. I started filling my mind with positive words, instead of dwelling on the past, I moved forward by reaching out to other developers who later accepted my services as it is, and gave me a job with higher pay. I was relieved of the previous pain and smiled again😇.

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In conclusion, when you are rejected by anyone or your lover, or a company, remember that it's not the end for you. Dust yourself, remain focused, positive, and move ahead!

This post was inspired by the #hivelearners community contest on the topic titled REJECTION.

THANKS FOR READING!!!



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Ah. This is very funny and annoying too. After buying the materials, he just rejected you, why? What did you do? You should've targeted his mouth and given him like 3 blows.

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😂😂😂
Favor ooo , blow? Lolz...I wish I knew you then, I would have contacted you to come fight him on my behalf 🏃🏃🏃

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The stone that was rejected has become the head of the corner. The feeling of rejection is really bad, and not everyone can easily cope with it, however we have no option than to move on. Imagine the fire that filled your heart that moment you decided to give the job a try😊 only to come and get a bad news at your very first attempt. I know different thoughts must have ran through your mind, especially that you were not too experienced, at a point like that giving up might look like the only option to someone that is not resilient. For someone like me I can easily conclude that the man perceived that I was only but a learner that was why he rejected me and for that reason, it will only take God to motivate me again.😂

Thank God the NO didn't quench the fire to try in you. We miss many opportunities in life because of our inability to try again and again. We need to learn how to put what is in the past where it belongs and move on with life. Had it been you gave up , you would not have gotten into the juicy part of the work, now I believe you are a boss in the filed and can mentor someone on that aspect because you have experience there.

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Man you said reasonable words. People miss great opportunities because they don't try again. And most times rejections are likely blessings in disguise because we don't know what awaits us.

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I said that from experience sir, I can't count how many times good opportunities passed me by because I was scared of being rejected again. I was scared of going through the same pain for the second time but the day I broke out of it, I became a strong man and not only succeeded but leant a lesson the that states everyday is not Christmas. Bad days are sure to come, and incase they come, it is just to face them and keep moving.

Wow!! This is like the visit of a president to me, when I saw your comment I was shocked at first, I thought I had committed an offence 😁, until I viewed it and saw that it was a reply. Only heavens knows how happy I am to have you reply my comment. I am grateful sir🙏🙏🙏 thanks a lot.

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Lol visit from a president. You make me laugh. There is not much difference between us anyways. I read your comment and it made quite a lot of sense and I had to reply.

Committed an offense? Smiles. I won’t have upvoted the comment if that is so.

Keep making great engagements.

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Thank you very much sir, this is more than encouragement. I won't take it for granted. I really appreciate your response 🙏🙏🙏❣️❣️❣️♥️🥰

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My dear, as a beginner in that bussinness, that kind of rejection is enough for me to be demoralized. Oh yes same thought that the man noticed that I am a learner ran through my mind, however, I wanted him to tell me why but he refused. Perhaps he does not want me to feel bad about his reasons but his rejection alone hurts badly.

If not that I was determined to make money, I would have made a U-turn from then , but no , I refused to accept defeat 😂😂

Thanks for dropping by and leaving a yummy comment 🤗🤞

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Perhaps he does not want me to feel bad about his reasons but his rejection alone hurts badly.

Sorry about that. If you were not hurt, we will have to take you for a check-up. It is very normal to feel bad after being rejected but your next action is what really matters. And the beautiful story is you were too determined to make money,🤣 therefore rejection is too small to stop you. It has to give way.

You are always welcome mom🥰🤗

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You had to face a typical rejection, this is one thing about rejection, it most times comes with no explanation. Indeed rejection is not a ticket to giving up. I'm happy you picked yourself up and moved on.

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It wasn't easy to move on anyways. But the zeal to make that money pushed me forward. Thanks for dropping by 👍

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That's something, you were determined to succeed and that helped you to overcome that rejection.

You are always welcome dear 🤗😇

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That is painful, he should atleast compensate you for being a jerk....

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Reflecting on the resources wasted already about the job only makes me to feel bad. Those guys , I settled down even without doing any job at least to cover their TP and time wasted!

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Rejection hurts a lot and I have been rejected too but I also moved on and thank God I was able to cope while I get other customers for my stuff. I should write one and post soon.

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How was the feeling 🤣
So painful right? Holla me when your rejection story is live...I would love to give it a read 🤞

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Dear @nkemakonam89,
May I ask you to review and support the new proposal (https://peakd.com/me/proposals/240) so I can continue to improve and maintain this service?
You can support the new proposal (#240) on Peakd, Ecency, Hive.blog or using HiveSigner.

Thank you!

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You are very right it is not the end of the world when i was rejected by my girlfriend I moved on it was a motivation for me to focus.

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Yes oo
Move on my friend, it's not the end👍

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Even though it has an end in the words 😂

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Some rejection comes with no reason which has happened to me before and it affected me so much because I have put in all my mind and when the rejection came in I couldn't hide my feelings

Though later it was for good but at that moment of rejection I felt like the world is about to end
Which is wrong because rejection is not the end of the world what you just need to do is to take another direction which might not be easy but the right thing to do

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My dear, some rejections are blessings in disguise. Just that as humans we are, we will think that the world is ending 😂

I'm glad to hear your part of rejection story and the good ending 👍
I really appreciate your stopping by 👍🤗🥰

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Yes some rejection are for good but we won't see at that moment because we are not happy at the rejection
But at that end we will thank God for everything

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Exactly 💯👏
You are on point sis
I appreciate this engagement 🥰

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Rejection is part of been human, it only prove we are inperfect, so been rejected isn't the end of the world. We can be loved, cherished and valued again.

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Yes, we are imperfect being and we can't escape being rejected.
Wow....I really love this feedback...many thanks my friend 👍

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You are welcome, the pleasure is mine. Do have a great day

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That man is sick in the head. I love the way you handled the matter. Rejection no dey show for face.

And see what later happened, you got a better offer. I love the story.

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I am so much annoyed that he didn't state the reasons for his rejection, all the same I am glad that his action didn't stop me from moving forward 👍
Thanks for visiting my friend 😊👍

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You are highly welcome maam

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Omoor… next time you have to receive payment in advance to seal the deal. Because which one is the embarrassment he caused to you and your workers. He no make sense now. It’s even annoying by the way.

E for don pain me oh if day na me. In fact, I fit change am for am. I am glad you did not quit the business and found another client. It is rewarding!

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Yea, it's a big embarrassment and annoying! I didn't make the mistake again of not receiving payment in advance going forward. I learnt in a hard way and it's fine 👌

I was able to overcome the urge to quit because I already had a set goal to achieve from the bussinness, glad I found favor from other clients.

Thank you so much for this royal visit 👍✅💖💖

much appreciated 🥰

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Rejection comes in different ways, as you said. Whenever we are faced with rejection doesn't mean we are a failure.

Thank you Ma.

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Rejection is really inevitable that's the bitter truth but the courage to move on is highly needed..

I'm glad you were able to put yourself together after you lost the first contract and I'm glad it paid off😄

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I can't imagine how you felt that day rejected at the first job offer and when you are about to start.
That's really not reasonable from the client not even a heads up but on the D-day

Well glad you got over it.
And yes your way out works for me too

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You know some people don't consider how their fellow human beings will feel before taking an action but it's all good now 🤗
Thanks for dropping by 👍

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rejection is not a certificate to stop trying you are certainly right. Rejection is part of life, We should always learn from failures and rejection.

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Yesoo, when we fail, we re-evaluate and rise again 😂👍
Thanks for stopping by 👍

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You've rightly said, being rejected isn't the end of life. Sometimes we gain and sometimes we loss, we just have to dust our feet and try again, and keep trying until we have that big break. No doesn't change anything, it's what we make from it afterward in our minds that make it hold hurts. I'm glad you moved on without having to start a fight

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sometimes we gain and sometimes we lose.

Though I was looking forward to working with the man but then he changed his mind and I realized that we will not win all the time, there are times we lose and there is nothing we can do other than accept our loss. More gains are coming our way👍.

I'm glad you moved on without having to start a fight.

I can't even think of that(especially when I don't know how to fight 🤼)😅😅😅.

Thanks for stopping by 🥰🥰🥰.

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True, we can't win all the time.
And you're welcome

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Being rejected is not a stop sign..
I love that you recovered quickly and that you realize you worth more.

Rejection can lead to lot of things like low self esteem, which can also lead one to miss out the good things.

Thanks for sharing your experience.

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Dealing with rejection is not always easy but I am glad I overcame it quickly. Many thanks for dropping by

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Omo... This is very inspiring indeed. Rejection can come from anywhere at all, you would never even see it coming until it hit you square in the face. But you took the hit and still handled yourself. Very good of you.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

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Bruno ooo, I never saw it coming...it nearly swept my feet but glad I was able to withstand it 😂👍

Thanks for your kind words 👍

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Wow! You're indeed a hustler and I love that about you. It's unfortunate the man rejected your services, it's his loss anyway because I'm sure you could've delivered the best job 👌.

Indeed, no one is above rejection and it's difficult to cope with it. But with your method, it is possible. Another thing is that, we mustn't give up on what we want because of one time rejection. It does matter how many times, as long as we desire it, we should always go for it.

Thanks for sharing this ma! ❤️

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Giving up is a no - no Dimma

I will rather dust myself and keep moving front 😂

Thanks so much for this beautiful 😍 comment 👍

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Love this! You just gotta keep going, the only true failure is giving up :)

Thank you for sharing how you overcame a hard experience!

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Awmmm
Amazing feedback here
Plenty thanks my friend 👍🤗🥰

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This reminds me of my countless rejections that I have received from scholarship boards. It really is not easy for me to apply for another
But as you rightly said I will keep dusting myself and trying till I get accepted.

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Wow... sorry to hear this
And yes, dust yourself and move ahead

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