Decision-making? You can be screwed no matter what you choose to do.

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I've had a lot of situations where I had to be the one making decisions that affect not just me but the decision also affects my siblings, my family, my teammates, my colleagues, and co. Having that sort of responsibility on your shoulders is extremely useful to your growth and development.

One of the things you learn from that is that you have to be very aware of the fact that your decisions have a lot of consequences that can go beyond you to affect those around you. Having that in mind makes us want to think well before we make decisions.

For the record, the costs and benefits of making decisions vary. The weight on my shoulder when deciding if I should take breakie each day is different from the weight on my shoulder when I'm making decisions as a team leader in a project that could be life-changing.

With that in mind, I will walk y'all through some questions related to decision-making and how I act in such situations;


What are the steps I take when making decisions?

Decision-making is filled with uncertainty and that's why it's not a surprise that many people who are trying to make a difficult life decision are always weighing out the costs and benefits of making that decision. That's a given because everyone wants to be sure they are making a decision that won't come back to bite them hard.

In my case, even when I'm looking at things to weigh the costs and benefits of making a decision, I also go steps further to weigh the costs and benefits of not making that decision. I do this because there have been moments when the costs of not making a decision turn out to be worse than the cost of making a decision, even when the decision I'm supposed to make is a risky one.

A good example of this was the decision I had to make after spending a year in the marketing unit of a Commercial Bank in Nigeria. This was in the first quarter of 2021. Within that one year I spent, I did a rough estimate of my Finances and the lifestyle I was living as a Banker. The work is a fancy one, but the finesse of being a Banker wasn't enough to cover bills. Now, for someone as ambitious as myself, remaining in that job can make me miserable.

I had to decide on something else and that decision-making was tough because most people assumed that working in a bank is the best sort of work you can do. For me who's already in the system, I didn't find the routine work they do there fulfilling. It's the type of work that will have me do the same thing for decades without having room to aim high enough toward achieving my goal.

I needed to quit that job and dive into something that's fairly more inspiring but also more risky. People called me crazy when they realize what I did, but I made the decision knowing fully well that I was, at the point, screwed regardless of what I chose. I decided to choose what I believed will serve my long-term purpose and I'm glad I made that decision.

Life isn't looking too bad at the moment and I can afford to do other things on the side geared towards improving my life and positioning myself on paths that leads to the life goals I've set for myself.


How long does it take me to make decisions?

For the biggest decisions I've made in recent years, I don't ever remember taking too long to make those decisions. I can get ideas about things and do my research about those things. If it's a decision that involves money, I check if I can afford to spend that much money. For example, when I spent a fortune last year to get a laptop that gives me a decent 10+ hours of battery life, making that decision was a piece of cake.

Not because I have so much money. Nope! It was easy because I had just enough to pay for it and I knew I needed the laptop because I was about to travel two days later and my laptop would be very useful where I was traveling to. When I did the Maths, it was obvious that buying that laptop would make me have to manage my finances for the next couple of days. Well, being minimalistic with my Finances isn't strange to me.

So, I just woke up two days before my travel, made some calls, and went to physically check the laptop. When it was unsealed, I checked to be sure the specs tallied with what it was supposed to be. Voila! I paid for it and the laptop has been serving its purpose since then till this very moment.


If I get a disappointing outcome, how do I deal with it?

How else? Haha. I just have to take the L like a champ. I won't cry about a bad decision I've already made. Before making the decision, I had already imagined things going wrong. So, if it finally goes wrong, the best I can do is to make sure I understand why it went wrong so I will make sure I won't repeat that same mistake in the future.

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Balancing the risks and potential impacts of each decision is indeed key, just like practicing to build up your confidence. I am sure everyone needs a little confidence boost now and then, especially when making tough calls.

I get what you mean about the weight of decision-making varying depending on the situation. I guess that's why they say, "Life is full of choices". Some are easy, like what to have for dinner (cheeseburger, thank you), and others, are more serious, like choosing a career.

I love that you don't let stress get the better of you when making decisions. It's easy to feel overwhelmed, but giving yourself some time, weighing the pros and cons, and thinking about your goals and values are all great strategies.

All in all, you are a boss, so I have confidence in you...lol

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Awesome. I like how you likened decision-making to confidence-building. We get better at them by doing more of it. Someone who exposes himself to situations that warrant making decisions and steps up to make those decisions will subsequently learn so much from the experience, even if he sometimes makes bad calls.

Stress gets into life at all points and we don't usually get the privilege of choosing when we want stress to come. This means that we can't also allow stress to stop us from making decisions.

It's kinda complex in some ways, but the best way to simplify things is always to weigh the odds of making that decision against the odds of not making it. That's what makes things easier for us as we take further steps. Hehe.

Well Done, Iska. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

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Life of a banker mehn me i do know that bankers is just the name alone, there is not much to it. but i like the fact that you have things sorted out and when it comes to your decision making you consider other members of your family with it

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Life of a banker the s truly not easy and many people don't even know about this. Some of them get a cat and an apartment, yet the price for that gets deducted from their salaries for so many years.

For me and the sort of life I want, that lifestyle will only drive me into debt and I don't want to be indebted to any person or organization. Haha.

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I understand how that is and also.do get not being indebted to anyone. I wish you success in all your endeavours of life. Those who live the life they want don't have two years, so God will that which your heart desires come to pass.

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Thanks so much, Treasure. Your words are filled with kindness. Hehe.

God Bless You

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The risks in decision-making are sometimes what people tend to avoid but no matter how much we try to avoid them, we will have to make one or more decisions as we journey in life. The ability to cope with disappointment is what matters most.

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True. Most people would choose to avoid decision making if there is an option to this, but the reality of life is that every aspect of our life is punctuated by decision making.

Since that's the case, we need to train ourselves to get better at making those decisions.

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Quiting a job and doing a new start is really a big decision which can effects in long term in life. It shows that you are risk taker also. I always think twice when I have to put the big money on anything.

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Exactly. It was a very risky thing to do at that point, but the motivation I had was that I need to do that as soon as possible since I was 23 around that time. It's so much better to change job at that age than having to do it when I'm already older. Haha

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I had always thought that people that work in the bank are living the best of their lives but oops it turned out to be just the opposite.

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Haha... Bank work is no joke oooo, especially those that work as Teller. It's just so much work with very little pay.

The job is not easy

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