Healing Wounds And Moving Forward

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It is true that the world is filled with conflicts, misdeeds, and misunderstandings. As humans, we are bound to make mistakes. More like, it is in our genes to sometimes make hurtful actions. This is where the concept of forgiveness creeps in. In a world filled with war and fights, forgiveness serves as an element that brings peace and balance. It is the act of letting go of pain, anger, resentment and creating a new life. Most times, a better and more beautiful life. The concept of forgiveness is way deeper than most people think it is. It is important to understand that forgiveness goes beyond the confines of just forgetting the pains of harmful actions caused by others. Just like success, forgiveness is more like a journey. It is the type of journey where you encounter pitfalls. This journey is not a straightforward one, it is a tough one filled with obstacles.

I'm aware of the importance and health benefits of forgiveness. I think it is pertinent that an individual knows at least one importance of forgiveness. When it comes to forgiveness, there are two people involved in it; the forgiver and the forgiven. Forgiveness has lots of benefits for both the forgiver and the forgiver. One of the benefits is that it reduces stress. This means holding grudges causes stress. Having established that forgiveness has numerous benefits, the big question is; is it an easy task? Do you just wake up one morning and say “Oh! This person broke me into ten pieces, yet, I forgive you.” of course, it doesn't work this way. Forgiveness is a process. A gradual process that involves time, a good heart, a willingness to let go of resentment and anger, empathy, understanding, and commitment. Forgiveness is not an easy task, especially if the damages are deep. The deeper the wounds, the harder it is to forgive. Forgiveness is a gradual process that starts with a step.

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In my opinion, the first step is to reframe the perception. It is natural to see the person who hurt you as your enemy. However, instead of seeing them as your enemy, we need to see them as a flawed human being. As a human being , it is natural for us to make mistakes. This brings me to the second step- understanding the perspective of the person who caused the harm. Critically analyze the context. Why did the person act the way they did? What made them do it? Was it intentional? These are important questions we need to ask ourselves. It is also very important to filter negative emotions.

In as much as forgiveness is beneficial to our body system, it is important to strike a balance between forgiveness and allowing people to take advantage of you. Just because you have a forgiving spirit doesn't mean you should allow people to take advantage of you. Let people know that there is a huge difference between these two distinct subjects.

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It is really fascinating how the human nature can be diverse. We see siblings, even twins, with different traits. Forgiveness is definitely one of those areas where people's perspectives can vary greatly. Some people find it very hard to heal broken wounds and let go of the shattered bottles, while others see it as a simple and easy task. Where do you fall into? Do you find it hard to forgive or not?

DO I FIND IT HARD TO FORGIVE OR NOT

When it comes to forgiveness, wounds vary. Some wounds can go really deep, leaving a lasting effect on the person’s emotional well-being. On the other hand, there are wounds that just hurt on the surface level. For me, only close friends can cause me deep wounds. This is why I find it hard to let people into my life; because I'm afraid of getting hurt. I understand that forgiveness is important, but still, I find it hard to forgive and forget. I am a work in progress. I understand that forgiving someone means restoring peace to my mental health, however, it can be a big deal for me. I always try to forgive people, but it takes so long to erase the memories even when the wound has healed, the scar brings back memories.

WHY DO I FIND IT HARD TO FORGIVE?

I don’t want to give off the impression that I have totally locked my heart and that forgiveness is not a word in my dictionary. It is. In fact, it is written and well explained in capital letters. Just as I mentioned, I am a work in progress. I’m trying to be a better version of myself. However, currently, I find it hard to forgive and forget. I guess that is the way I am. This is the shortest answer that explains why my heart finds it hard to forgive and forget.

Thanks for reading.