Joke gone wrong
Laughing is good medicine, as it helps us relieve stress and it can come in various forms, from funny comedy skits or simply just making jokes with friends or relatives. Apart from my high school days, I am more of an introverted person, if you see me make a joke with someone, it means I've known the person for a long time and have gotten comfortable with them. But within my family I am more of an extroverted person that when someone outside says I'm the quiet type, they laugh in disbelief because they know I can worry for Africa.
Joking with friends and family is a good thing but sometimes the receiver Of the joke might take offense even though you had no ill intention, that is why it is necessary for us to know the weak point of an individual and not make a joke about that part of their life. Still, we are humans and can't read minds so there is bound to be a fallout at times.
Have I ever offended someone through a joke?
Yes, I have but sincerely, it wasn't intentional but the aftermath was bad. During the last Christmas holiday, I and my family including my siblings and theirs decided to spend Christmas at our parent house, it was a full house of merriment, we were happy to be with each other, at a point, we got talking after lunch, the conversation was interactive, I can't remember what we were actually talking about now, then I cracked a joke about my sister not needing a man to survive, which was an honest point of view from my side, I was just encouraging her to be her own boss, but her husband got offended and his countenance changed, but I didn't quickly observe and kept on talking, suddenly he stood up and said they had to leave, I felt bad about bringing that joke on, because I didn't want them to leave yet and also didn't want my sister to have any issues with her husband. He insisted and left earlier than usual, although, this was not the first time we had hung out together, and her husband and I are very good friends, I learned not to dabble with such topics anymore especially in front of him as it hurt his ego as a man. Even though I meant well, he is sensitive to it so I have to respect him and avoid it.
Have I ever felt offended by jokes?
Definitely a yes. Growing up into puberty during my secondary school days, I noticed I was beginning to have facial hair on my chin just like my mum, I was self-aware and felt embarrassed to have facial hair, only for one stubborn classmate of mine to joke around with it and started calling me bear bear meaning beards, it wasn't funny then as my other classmates joined him in bullying me by calling me that name. I took it up and reported it to our mathematics teacher, I was his favorite in class and he was the least favorite and most feared teacher. He warned them and told me to report anyone that bullied me again and that was how the bear bear nickname died out.
Cracking jokes with friends is cool but we should know when to stop when they are not feeling the funny vibe anymore instead getting offended, also try to understand the person you are cracking joke with, what he or she likes and dislikes, that way, getting people offended with your jokes will be curbed.
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Your sister husband took that personally because if I know you to be the joking type whenever we are conversing I will know how to manage what you said there. He shouldn't have left in that manner because how on earth can you really mean what you said in his presence? I believe you are not that rude to him to that extent. Well, we humans are of different mindset actually. About your facial appearance I'm just imagining how bad you felt about what your classmates were doing to you. Thank God the mathematics teacher solved that equation for you:)
I guess he's just the emotional type, he knew I was joking though, reason why he didn't reply me, it was my sister that later informed me that he felt offended.
Haha, yea, he solved the equation.
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Mad ooo! Your sister's husband didn't try na. I sha understand that some people might be sensitive to talks like that but I just wish he didn't cut short the merriment like that.
Btw, I see a Maths guru here. For your teacher to like you to the point of defending you, you must have been thrashing people in Math. I'm happy the jokes died out. You're a beautiful woman. Thanks for sharing.❤️
Yeah, some people are very sensitive and little things hurt them, it's better to avoid topic you know they will read meaning to even if it was a joke.
Ha ha, I actually was very good in math, reason I was his favourite, but sine my my class mates envied me for that.
Thank you dear, I really appreciate your comment.
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We should know when to stop dabbling our mouths. Jokes are fun, yet expensive. I am glad your maths teacher stood by you.
I'm glad too, it was a long time ago, such kind of joke doesn't even get to me now.
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That is fine. Thank you for sharing.
Ouch... I guess the merry wasn't complete again.
It pains a lot when people misunderstands and misinterprets what we do, I can't even imagine how pained you will be for the rest of the Christmas celebration
Many times with make jokes with clear intentions and the other party take offense. It has happened to me before.
I know a few people with facial hair but you can't exactly blame them for it. It's part of their genetic makeup but many people don't understand this.
I hope the issue didn't escalate than that with you and your sister's husband? One needs to be careful when cracking jokes because some people's mood could change anytime. So, observing such moment and the kind of person would help one not to crack any joke that might seem sensitive to other people.
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I feel like your sister's husband overreacted and that could be a sign of insecurity but that is just my opinion. We all have our pressure points and sensitive line and maybe that was his (still doesn't make sense to me). Jokes can really turn into something else the next moment and I observe when it does so I don't cross that line again. Like you did.
Yea, my thoughts exactly, insecurity, well people are different and we can't blame them but to just respect their boundaries.
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Cracking jokes are good but people has different understanding and may not really understand it the way we do
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I don't want to sound unsensitive, but I feel that nowadays people get offended too easily. I honestly feel like we are a generation of snowflakes w big egos.
There is no better thing that solid, good laugh. It heals. Especially if you go through really bad stuff in your life. And lif is hard! I hope your brother - in law will show that he is bigger man, and next time he will take the joke like a man - and laugh it of, or hit you with fine retort:)
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Yeah, life is not meant to be taken too seriously at all times, it is always refreshing to have a good laugh once in a while, but some people are a bit too sensitive, we just have to respect their boundaries.
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The thing is, you don't know the boundaries until you cross them a little bit at least.
I don't think the valid argument would be 'he MIGHT think it is offensive'. This way you hardly could say something. He just find this offensive, and that is completely different thing:)
And most of all - ego must be hurt from time to time in order to be better, humble person. Vanity is after all not quality we should encourage, isn't it?
I hate jokes😑 people say I'm too serious but that's how I stop people from saying nonsense to me.
I was bullied a lot in school so I became very self aware and reserved too. I don't know how to take jokes because to me, it's an insult you tell a person while laughing.
I know sometimes they are harmless but come on, some people say really embarrassing things to others in the name of joke so most times, I disapprove of it.
I'm sorry about the incident with your brother-in-law. I hope you guys are good now. Great post dear. Popped in from Dreemport.
I understand dear, people are different, the that you don't enjoy jokes is normal too, I guess people around you should know when not to cross the line.
Yeah, we are good now.
I appreciate this sincere comment.
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