Reflections On Unfair Treatment And How They Reshaped Me.
There is always that time in life when you get treated unfairly and I believe it always happens like that for us to learn lessons. Life is all about learning and it's something we will do every day until our last breath on earth, the need for those lessons can't be looked down on because when we refuse to learn, we suffer something similar to the lessons we refused to learn.
I have been treated unfairly a lot of times and this is because I always open my heart to people even though I don't expect the same thing from them. I hate to see people in tight conditions and wouldn't hesitate to help them as long as I can do so but life can be very funny because those people you are looking out for might be the very ones to treat you badly in the end. I have lost count of times I was treated badly and that still doesn't stop me from doing the needful when someone needs my help, I just try to be more cautious.
From my experience, I don't expect much from people. When I help, I don't expect anything in return and that has been the simple secret that has protected my will to always be there for people when they need me.
Immediately after school, I and one of my roommates didn't leave the apartment. Although, we do travel home but we kept the place since it was free. The other guy who stayed with me there was lucky to get a job at PZ Cusson with a lucrative salary.
We were all excited when he broke the news to us and I told him that he should help me be on the lookout for opportunities which he said yes to. Months passed and things were going pretty well for this roommate of mine so he got an apartment closer to work.
About 6 months later, this same roommate of mine got another job in Abuja with the help of a family member and I envied him at that point because I was still struggling to get a job with decent pay. He was allowed to bring someone to replace him at the current work and I pleaded that he helped me since the other roommates were away and didn't show any interest.
He assured me that I was going to get the job and I felt like it would be compensation for taking in him when we met so my mind was at rest. Even before I got the job, I had calculated how to spend my salary and as well further my education. Days passed, weeks passed and I heard nothing from my roommate.
Whenever I called, he would tell me that he was still processing the work for me and I wondered how because he didn't even ask for my CV. As time passed, I learned that he had travelled to Abuja permanently and I was shocked.
I felt bad because I wasn't expecting such treatment from him. From the very first hello, I have always treated him like a brother and what he did to me was beyond unfair. I didn't bother asking him and just accepted that I wasn't destined to work there but I was hurt emotionally since it wasn't the first time someone I called a friend treated me that way. It even got to a point and I started thinking that it was pointless having friends since they will eventually hurt or treat you badly in the end.
I couldn't hold back how I felt for long so I told another roommate because we were about five the flat then. I discovered that my roommate actually gave the job opportunity to his crush's elder brother, he wanted to win the girl's heart at all cost and it worked. He got what he wanted from the girl before he left for Abuja and I didn't believe my ears.
If he could give out the job to someone else because of lust, it meant I was worth nothing to him. It was difficult to swallow that fact but I did and just cut the guy off completely. We met at a fuel station in 2022 and I just ignored him.
After the experience, I have been treated unfairly several times but they didn't have any impact on me. I have seen the true picture of what humans could be so why expect good when I know the chances of getting something bad in return is higher?
I didn't let what he did stop me from helping and people don't fail to show me their dark side but it doesn't bother me anymore. I just want to play my part in humanity and move on, that's all.
If we refuse to help because of our experience, what would happen when someone who would repay the kindness eventually shows up and we refuse to help him or her? It's best to do what I am capable of without expecting anything in return.
Omooo, this is just life my brother. People can be so so unfair and they don't even see anything wrong with their actions. Imagine someone you ate, stayed and do things together with.
People can be cruel, Las Las, that guy he connected to do the job might not even appreciate him enough the way you would have. That's bye gone and I'm glad you learnt from the experience. Cutting him off was the best decision ever, he doesn't worth being called a friend.
Honestly, I felt bad even while writing this because it brought back the memories I had buried. People can be really funny and these greedy will eventually lead them to nothing.
That's what many fail to recognize. Kindness is that act of doing something without expecting anything in return. Due to his selfish desire, he exchanged the job for his wishes to be met. God still uses men to lift others, he doesn't worth the ill feelings at all.
For every ill treatment done towards us, we learn something from it. It's just so bad knowing that the attitude comes from someone we never expected it from, like being too close to them, taking them as brothers or sisters but they do not mean well for us. It's just so sad but that shouldn't bring us down but as a way to learn lessons and keep moving on.
It hurts a lot when these things happen from people we never expected but we can't hold onto the pain longer since it would make us harbour hate inside us. I am glad the behaviour didn't break me and I am just the same me who love to help in a way that wouldn't hurt me anymore.
That is right. We should not let those experiences bring us down but to continue doing what is good.
Wow, I can't imagine how you might have felt, I don't know why people behave this way, he should have just told you the truth that he won't help then that would have been a different case yet he kept quiet and assuring you of the job. Everything worked for our good, I believe there is a reason you didn't get that one, maybe something bigger was cooking that's why.
It is good that you continue to help people in spite of the mistreatment you have received in life. Some hurt more than others, but you show that you have positive values, which obviously you were taught at home. The fact that some people have mistreated you does not mean that all others are like that. Keep acting well and God will continue to help you in life.