We are all opportunists.
Today, a friend of mine contacted me about a difficult situation she was going through. Her boyfriend had recently broken up with her, as he wanted to marry another woman who had promised to take him out of the country and secure his future.
The lady was feeling so bad, and he even said she had not eaten, ever since they broke up, she had not been productive because she couldn't stop thinking about her boyfriend. She wasn't expecting to break up anytime soon because this guy had not given her any reason to doubt.
My response was different. I said that he was desperate, and even though they got married and he saw this kind of opportunity, he would still leave the marriage to do things like this. I said God just wants to protect her from this guy, I told her to move on with her life.
We all hunt opportunities
The truth is, we all want opportunities, and we are all brought up in school and in families to believe that opportunity comes but once, and if you miss it you might not see it again. Most people in this guy's shoes would have done the same. They would have chased the opportunity to leave the country for greener pastures rather than staying with those who truly love them.
The truth is, if we see an opportunity that will change our lives, we all are going to consider it. Still, there is something we must always put first, which is whether it is worth it because most people who are in the process of trying to chase what seems like an opportunity that will change their lives lose themselves, and some people even lose their lives.
a perfect example of what I'm saying is those Nigerians who travel to Libya with the plan to cross to Italy but end up drowning in the ocean and also end up in the slave trade just because they thought they saw an opportunity to change their life not knowing it is a trap and a quick exit from this world.
Just the way I see it
We are all opportunists, and it's in our nature to seize the opportunity that comes our way and to do everything we can to change our lives. Still, the question we should always ask ourselves when seeking an opportunity is if it's truly worth it.
Most people believe that there is no reward without risk, but the risk that you will take that you end up losing your sanity, or your life even your dignity, is not worth it.
Just another day at the gym.
This is touching! But just like you said I think it's God's plan to let it happen now, rather than later when they are both married and maybe even with kids.
Because by then, it'll be more than just a mere break up, and the pain would be far greater than it is now. Breaksups are hard to overcome but I think it is always best to move on. And hopefully, she’ll find a man who's going to stick with her thru thick and thin.
I believe the guy has lost hope about ever making it in this country, but what he's not considering is that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. But tbh I can't blame him that much for making such a move, if it was the girl in the same situation, she might do the same.
It takes a lot of mental stakes to reject such an offer, and with the current condition of this country, only a strong-minded man would say NO and stand his ground.
That is just the truth because I'm very sure most people in that kind of situation would have done the same. We will choose to live in Nigeria for a greener pasture. Sometimes love is one of those sacrifices we must make, even though I did not support the guy's action. But I'm sure if I were to be in the guy's shoe, it would take a lot of determination to say no.
It’ll definitely take a lot of determination. But if the love is strong I think it'll be much easier to say No. Clearly, it's not that strong.
It was really bad of the guy to break up just like that, but one thing is that we can't force love, I pray the lady in question finds another man that will cherish her. The guy just saw an opportunity to grab and he act fast but marrying someone just because they promised you something is a dangerous act that can backfire in future
Talking about opportunities, I believe not all opportunities are worth taking because there are some opportunities that will rather put you in danger and make you loose everything, it is good to seek and Grab opportunities as they come but it is also good to be cautious when grabbing this opportunities.
We should always consider the risk and carefully weight it against the rewards whenever a life changing opportunity presents itself to us. Some life changing opportunities are definitely not worth it despite the great rewards that may come from it.
I really don't like what the guy did. He entered a marriage and I think he should have at least talked with his spouse first before deciding to jump on that opportunity. It sucks but I hope your friend gets over the breakup. I can at least understand why he wants to improve his life but I morally disagree with the way he proceeded with this.