Blame your mindset, Not anger
Many people believes anger is a bad thing, it is a destructive spirit that makes people do evil or things they would not do in their normal self but i say this is just a negative thinking of anger...
Anger is not what destroy, It gives us the confidence, boldness and energy to be able to do things just that most time people channel their anger into causing havoc and thereby label anger as something bad we need to stay clear of...
The reason why people channel their anger into harming others is because that was actually what activate the anger, so they never think out of the box that the anger can be used for something productive that will benefit them instead of ruining others life or get themselves injured....
Some years ago, when i wanted to open my first bank account i was very scared of going to the bank alone, i pleaded with my sis to follow me but she was always busy so i ended up wasting months because i didn't want to face those bankers alone but there was a day someone made me so angry and i was boiling but i just left the place angrily and on my way home, i remember i had something i needed to do in the bank, with the anger still boiling inside of me, i didn't bother to think twice as i headed straight to the bank to make an enquiry of how i was going to get my first bank account...
To my surprise, they attended to me nicely and even before i left the bank the anger in me has subsided and i was just wondering exactly what i was scared of in the first place that made me stay months away from doing the needful, that was one way anger has helped me...i channeled it to the right place instead of using it to fight others because you know i could have think of someone who has offended me in the past that i can actually use the anger on but instead i use it to achieve the bank goal!
If people can learn to control their anger and channel it towards something positive that will benefit them, it would be nice, but unfortunately not many people can do that, some people do not have power over them selves...
One thing i also notice about people that get angry easily is that, it is either they are in need of love or money...
When i said love; you can't see someone who is in love getting angry unnecessarily, often you will see them smiling alone because they are no longer of this world, they are faraway in dreamland lost in the thought of their partner, if you try hurting such people they would forgive you easily because their heart is all merry and the only person that can actually stir up their anger at that moment is the person they are in love with, i think lovers would be able to relate to this....
When i said Money;i don't really mean money but the things money can buy and the things lack of money can cause such as hunger, there is a saying a hungry man is an angry man, don't even try provoking a hungry man because he is already angry due to lack of food and any slight thing will result to him exploding and such kind of anger can never be productive because the hunger won't even make him think straight!
Anger is not a bad when channeled into the right thing, It is your mindset that controls what you use the anger on, so work on your mindset and let that anger help you achieve things!
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This content is really rich and realistic.
The part that got me laughing the most is the part you said an hungry man is an angry man.
You are really right because in a country like Nigeria where the economy is so poor, any slight thing can get a random man angry.
There's even a saying that all Nigerians are naturally angry!!!!
Lol...
Keep this going pal, you write really well!
it is not far from the truth, most people in nigeria are angry and that is because of the economy, lagosians are always angry and any slight provocation will make them explode, and also why people always add sorry before any statement or question to others lol... thanks my man
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You got me rolling on the floor.
You are so accurate!
Lagosians are angry birds... For instance when you want to ask for direction, you be like "sorry is this so so so street?"
Or in pigin, "abeg bro no vex, where this place lead to?"
I really enjoyed going through your post friend!
😂🤣that is how we must roll so we won't vex someone who is already angry😂, thanks, am looking forward to read yours!
yes pal, I will also write mine very soon...
I'm still enjoying engagement then!
Impressive!!! I love your perspective on this topic. Indeed anger that is channeled in the right direction will help you easily forgo that anger in you.
Like you described, when a lover is angry with someone, he or she easily let go of such anger of his or her partner ask them to but when they are offended by the one they love, it becomes really hard to let go of such anger.
Thank you so much for Sharing your thoughts with us Sir Burl.
Seems like you are a lover too as you can easily relate with my statement😉
Of course I am, lolz. But it is naturally easy to relate with it sha.
it is not easy to relate with what you have not felt, with your statement i know love has found you sometime in your life and that is agood thing! thanks for your positive comment dear
That's right. Yes love has and I'm so happy it did. You are welcome Sir 🥰.
Mrs. Lover...😂
Na that one you see
Hehehe, you will not Leave me oo 🙈🙈.
Mindset is really powerful and it's important we work towards channelling our mindset when we are angry. It's true one can get something positive when angry but it should be controlled not to escalate.
Indeed, pouring the anger into the right thing will be more profitable in the long run. But this requires a strong hold on our emotions for it to be possible.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Yes, a strong hold that cannot happen at first. Lkke every other thing in this life that requires mastery, having strong hold on our emotions can be learned. It only takes time and deliberate effort.
I totally agree with you, if only we know how to control our anger we can actually use it to do something good. Many people who get angry make some actions that they will end up regretting at the end.
They make regrettable actions when they are angry because they simply have chosen to not give, just but a moment to proccess their thoughts and the possible repercussions of their actions.
It is out of our control to determine the thoughts, feelings and actions of people, but it is in our jurisdiction of control to determine how we respond.
Exactly what I said in my post..anger can be a driving force to do something you've always been meaning to do or to change a situation you've been stuck with. If only you can channel the anger the right way then it'll bring about some desirable effect...
Anger isnt bad it's what you do after getting angry that determines the whole situation..
Thanks for sharing ❤️
Everything boils down to our mindset. It is not in our power to control how people think, feel and behave towards us, but it is in our power to control how response.
If only we could give, just but a moment to process our thoughts, we may make much better decisions and unlimately become better versions of ourselves just by simply exercising control.
True, they'll always be moments when people would do things to hurt us and there's no way we can help control their actions..what matters is how we respond.
One second can actually change a lifetime...we just need one second to reminisce on the kind of action to take... would that action bring about desired outcomes or would it cause more pain...control is what matters most in anger management
I don't know if this was supposed to make me laugh, but it did. especially all the part with lagosians because its sooo true, we are very angry people. True, anger can be a really driving force, what we do with it though, that's what matters.
abi na, so many things to get one angry, is it the over population and daily struggle we should talk about, or the meagre pay and stress people encounter while going to work..
Eii my God. Lagosians are angry people o.
There is a time when I was at Oshodi, walking on my own to Arena. And then, I passed by some individual and he started saying things like "don't let me near you" (in yoruba) and I got confused. But remembering that it was Lagos, I didn't even look back and I immediately crossed, so as to ot chop slap on my neck; it has happened to me before.
Lack of love causes anger in marriages. I have seen a man who always complain that his wife was always angry and murmuring which sometimes puts him off from going home after work.
But everything changed when his friend advised him to show more love to his wife in all ramifications.
He saw results in just two weeks and it brew his mind away.
that is women nature, once they feel neglected they start to withdraw to their shell or misbehave, good he got a good advice from his friend
I absolutely concord with your input on this subject. When the mind is properly refined, anger would be managed.
The way you said people that get angry easily that either they need love or money amazes me because it's the truth. You can't see someone that's rich and have peace of mind getting angry unnecessarily.
yea and most rich people have learn to control their anger because they have everything to lose if they get into a stupid fight...
Truth be told anger is not really a bad thing channeled to the right place.
It can be a motivational response to the the right when needed
Anger is simply a reflection of one's thoughts on a subject or situation. It is what one perceives in an event and then the individual's thought process upon that which they have perceived that unlimately births the emotions one feels. Often times, with most people, the thought processes are unconscious. Or, more precisely, they may be unaware that they have considered it. Whichever the case, emotions are fundamentally reflections of our thoughts.
That being said, it does not follow that we have complete control over our emotions, at least not at the time they occur. But those emotions with respect to anger should not be termed "negative" or "bad." It is our response that matters, really.
The way people choose to behave is completely beyond our control. We simply cannot control how people think, feel, and behave towards us. It is what we can do about it that is in our control.
However, people often see anger as a bad emotion, and they tend to see less that it could be a tool to effect positive change. It could propel one into achieving something that they normally, with other emotions, would not be able to achieve.
Had you not gotten so angry like you did, you may not have been to the bank for way longer than you did. And then you eventually did go, thanks to the anger, and realised that bankers are actually not as bad as you thought. That anger helped you overcome your fear.
In the end, anger can be channeled into something to effect change. It would only require repurposing it.
Yes. Not many people can control and channel their anger to positivity. It requires the training of the mind to have the ability to do that. Best way if we can. Nice one bro.
Well, I think anger has two sides of it as you stated, the good and the bad. While maybe the bad side may outweigh the good side, there are some good side of it.
I have utilised the good side of it on some occasions, though self control is important here
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