RE: The Delicate Art Of Making And Keeping Vows

Wonderful write up @merit.ahama.

I might as well have a lot to say about promises being kept or broken.

I'll start with promises made to children. Just like how you won't forget the promises made to you when you were little. I had some like that too, I am the last child with my elder once by far older than me. One of my in-laws then would always(I mean every single time he comes visiting) promise to bring me a gift when next he visits but not once, never has he ever fulfilled it. The little mind of mine once hoped he would until eventually,his words made no meaning to me.

Children are optimistic, they believe and hold on to whatever they are told, they really don't know if you're capable or not, and most importantly they don't forget if you keep your promises or not. So if one knows that one won't go all out to make something happen, it's best not to promise a child.

Now generally, promises are in categories. Just as advised earlier and just like you mentioned, it's best not to promise, just do it.

The second ones are the promises one was made to promise. Things like "promise me that you will....". In that case, if you promise, you keep the person pleased but in the long run you break the person's heart if you eventually do not have the capacity to keep the promise. But if you say, "I am sorry, I can't promise that", you break the person's heart instantly but the damage would be minimal compared to, promising and not keeping it, so it's better.