RE: Sam’s Hangout #120 - “HYPER-INDEPENDENCE”

Do you think being hyper-independent should always be seen as a strength, or you believe it's a trauma response and can sometimes become a barrier to receiving support and building healthy relationships with others? If you've experienced hyper-independence yourself, what do you think contributed to it, and how has it shaped or affected your life?

Answer
Hyper-independent isn't a strength. It's just a trait in an individual who doesn't find depending on others comfortable probably due to upbringing or some life personal experiences.

I've been there until I realized I can't make life all alone, sometimes I need people to survive. It started from my childhood programming, my grandma didn't like depending on people for things probably due to past disappointments and I learned from it. Growing up, I realized I've suffered in silence many times and it wasn't helping because people still depends on me- told myself I'm not god, and can't continue to act like one.

A balance is good, whatever is too much or too little has effect on the the long or short run.