Why choose the complex way?

Humans are indeed mysterious. Most humans try to do things in complex ways, and I really don’t know why they try to follow the complex path. You must be thinking about why I am talking about it. Obviously, I have a reason for it. What is the most precious thing for a person. I think it’s the family as well as family members. After marriage it’s nature to pay more attention to his partner and the children but it doesn't mean the parents and siblings are not important. They carry value, but they communicate little compared to the past after getting married.

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I have seen it many times that some of my relatives face some issues between their siblings or other family members and they don’t speak up about their thoughts and naturally other others don’t understand whole thing. Suppose one brother done something which displeased another brother. The person was unhappy, but the person chooses to keep quiet thinking that his brother may feel hurt if he points out the issue. Such a thing continues and the unsatisfactory actions from one turned into hate with is just a matter of time. When one person starts to hate another one, another one can understand the hate through actions; the brother starts to think his brother hates him for no reason and conflict happens for it.

Their first mistake is they care for each other, and they keep quiet at the beginning thinking that their word may hurt their brother. So, their misunderstanding gets no chance to be solved. They could solve things if they talked about it between them. But they choose a complex way. One brother shares the things with the outsiders, and the outsider can share their insight with them and another brother also shares it with outsider and gets involved in such a case it doesn’t remain a family issue. In fact, sometimes both brothers talk about the situation to the same outsider.

If the outsider is a good person s/he may choose to solve it by working as the middleman between two brothers. The situation can be opposite if they outsider is not a good man. I found it ridiculous. They are ready to share their thoughts with an outsider, but they are not ready to share the same thoughts with each other. If they share their thoughts with each other, their issues might have been solved easily long time ago. But they don’t do it. They wait till the situation gets worse and even if they try to fix it, they choose the most complicated way for it. It’s something I really can’t figure out, and both brothers get hurt in this case. Isn’t it better to share thoughts without thinking too much when it’s related to family members. It may create temporary discomfort but in long run it may protect their bonding.