When Minimalism Meets Friendship.

I am not the type of person that likes too much issues ,see when it comes to things , If I can survive with a few clothes, basic items, and a clean space, then I am okay like that. See over time, I have just come to realize that I just enjoy my peace of mind more than anything else ,That is how I started living with a minimalist mindset, even though I didn’t know that was what it was called then.

Now, here is where the problem sometimes comes in with friendships....

You see,it is not everyone will understand you when you are not following trends, or when you not buying the latest thing in the market, some of my friends can not understand why I will walk past a nice bag or shoe and not be moved at all, There was a time one of my close friends said, “Bae you too dey manage things abeg,” and it was not even as a compliment ,it just made me laugh a bit, because I know it is not everyone that gets the whole idea of living with less things.

But really, it is not about managing or suffering, For me, it is just peace, I don’t like clutter, I don’t like buying things I dont even need ,even with clothes, I can wear something simple and clean and still feel really good no anyhow stress, but you see, in friendship, especially when you and the person do not share that same value, it can become something that pulls you apart or that can causes small tension.

There was a time a friend of mine got angry that I did not join her in shopping for a birthday outfit, I told her I was not planning to buy anything fancy and she got upset that I was not vibing with her , the way we used to but you see the truth is, I just did not want to spend on what I did not even need, if I had bought the outfit with her , me I don't go out , the clothes wil just be in my wardrobe as decoration

See that does not that mean I love my friends less, it just means I see things differently now, you know minimalism has taught me to focus more on meaningful experiences than material things, instead of going out to blow money anyhow, I will rather we sit down and talk, laugh, gist, or even share a meal.

And funny enough, a few of my friends started picking interest in that lifestyle too, one even said that he is tired of buying too many things he does not use, and how my “simple way” makes him rethink how he even spends that made me smile because at the end of the day, we influence each other, whether we like it or not.

So yes, we see that minimalism can really challenge a friendship, but it can also strengthen it ,it just teaches you to respect differences, It shows you who truly sees you for who you are and sometimes, it helps you and your friends grow in ways you did not even expect.

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