Staying United

Life has an interesting way of pulling its strings. Sometimes we find ourselves with the wrong person at the right time and other times, life shines its hopeful rays on us and we find ourselves with the right person at the right time. Sometimes, when it comes to love, we have no power over it. One thing might lead to another, and before you know it, your heart is connected to that of another person. It might be too late before you realize this. Have you ever found yourself connected to someone who is many miles away from you? I’ve not had many experiences when it comes to long-distance relationships, but most people say negative things about them. “Long distance relationships don’t work.” “It is only a matter of time before you guys depart.” On the other hand, I’ve also heard many positive things about long distance relationships. One thing I’d say is that if you find it difficult to stay committed, it is better not to get into it.

Making a long distance relationship work can be tough, nearly impossible, even. Trials and temptations will surely roll in, but as long as you have the right elements in place, you’ll be able to survive and Navigate the complexities of long-distance relationships. The most important factor is communication. Constant communication fuels a relationship.

I came across an article online that suggested you don’t need to talk to your partner every day. Meaning, communication is optional. If you don’t talk to your partner every day, who else would you want to share your thoughts and feelings with? Constant communication strengthens a relationship. It reassures both partners that they are still together, “you are mine and I am yours and our bond is still alive.” In relationships, fights and arguments are inevitable. Sometimes, when fights happen, you might want to take a break from your partner and stop talking to them. However, this is one of the biggest mistakes couples make. Some couples go days without speaking to each other, expecting the relationship to work out nonetheless. Instead, it's best to set a limit for yourself when misunderstandings arise. For example, "We must resolve our issues within 24 hours and get back to talking.

Another important thing is to make time for each other. The relationship starts to go down the drain when excuses come in, “oh! I was at work from morning till night. I had a very busy schedule. My friend was with me throughout the day.” Sometimes, your reason for staying off might be valid, but as soon as you’re free, reach out to your partner and connect. The best way to make a relationship work out is to give your partner the constant reassurance that you care about them and the relationship. Similarly, don’t be too quick to judge. Just because your partner has been offline the whole day doesn’t mean they are cheating on you or doing something they shouldn’t be doing. Instead of going on a rant and asking who they went out with, it is important to listen and hear their stories before you judge.

Most importantly, fight the distance. When it comes to long-distance relationships, the biggest enemies are time and distance. Work on meeting your partner physically and spending time together. If this isn't in place, it will only be a matter of time before you or your partner grow tired or find alternatives.

This is my entry to the INLEO prompt for day 19. The topic is; Long distance relationships can be complex. Share your stories with us.

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