SELF RESPECT OVER PEOPLE PLEASING.

Self respect over people-pleasing In today’s world where validation has become a silent currency and most people think saying “Yes” is always the right thing to do, I get it if you want to please your parents, your partner, your family, your friends, your teachers,and even strangers. The list goes on and on but somewhere in our hearts, we are afraid that if we ever say “No” people might dislike us or even think we are mean or heartless and because of this many people are tangled in the habit of saying Yes to everything and anything even when it’s not convenient for them. There are some people that just wants us to say yes; “ Yes I will come” “Yes I will help” “Yes I will do it”

Hence if we keep saying yes to everyone we forget to say yes to ourselves, now I am not saying that it is bad to say yes but truth be told saying yes can hurt you more than saying No.
saying No is not a bad, it doesn’t mean you are mean or wicked, it means you’re protecting yourself It’s more like shutting your door when you’re tired_ you are not angry with your friends or family you just need rest because genuinely speaking we get tired, sad upset and even frustrated because we tend to be doing too much.
Until you learn to say No to the wrong thing you cannot make space to say Yes to the right things.
I remember some time a go while I was still in school a friend of mine asked to borrow her my wig for an event and that she’ll return when she comes back, now personally I don’t like sharing my belongings I’ll rather buy for you that share the one I am using with you because I just feel those are personal stuff that are meant for me only. After about a week I messaged her and asked her to return the wig if she was done with it but she bluntly ignored my messages and acted like she wasn’t with the stuff and after much calls she told me that she misplaced it and I should get another one, is the audacity for me?? I snubbed it and let it slide fast forward to three months after I bumped into her with the same wig on and I am like hold up,thought you said you misplaced it why are you still with it few minutes into trying to reason with her she flared up and started insulting me, it was so embarrassing that I had to walk away. I could have easily told her No I don’t share my belongings but I literally displeased myself just to please her after some time she apologized for her outburst and I forgave her so after some days she asked for my heels and bag that she wanted to use it for a wedding and guess what i told her ? I told her NO but this time in upper case so she’ll know I mean it, and she was like I never forgave her else I would’ve given her what she asked, I didn’t say much I just let her express herself and when she was done she saw I was serious about my decision so she left and for once in my life I felt good with no regrets. So saying "No" is not about being selfish or unkind. It is about knowing your limits and protecting your peace.
At the end of the day, saying "No" is not about pushing people away-it is about creating balance.
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