ANGER MANAGEMENT

David! Drop that plate! I screamed but being the playful and also stubborn child he is my younger brother refused to listen, I will be at you o I will not wait for mummy to come back I will remove your teeth if you do not drop that plate I screamed even louder, still he refused to listen. I was washing plates on this particular day which is normal because I tell people I prefer to wash plates than wash clothes because I feel washing clothes is hectic. I love washing plates but there is a rule to it ## I do not like washing any plate someone was washing and left it to do something. My mum knows that I would not continue washing that plate, and that is my rule.

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On this day my elder sister forced me to finish washing the plates my younger brother was washing and I was angry and here comes the same younger brother who was meant to wash the plates with a plate he just finished eating with😡 that was where the whole saga started and out of anger I picked my Dad's favorite plate and flung it on his head and there he was in pain with blood gushing, that day I got the beating of my life and after my brother came back I was still fuming and threatening to deal with him and that's just a tip of the iceberg. On several occasions, I have almost slapped a bike man because he was talking to me rudely or because he refused to give me my complete change. It took the intervention of passersby to settle the issue, but I went back happy that I got my change.

One day I will never forget was a day I seized a taxi driver's key because he after carrying us went into a gas station to top his fuel and we were all pressed for time I had a test to write and others we speaking their mind and this driver just shouted " all women are mad, thank God the one I have at home understands the kind of person I am " and that was it, the frustration that I have missed one test in school already because of him got me angry but I still contained my anger because I have not said anything since and I politely asked for a refund which the others did too and he refused, I threatened to seize his key and he said " Dem no born your mama well" that got me angry and I seized his car keys and carried my bag ready to enter another vehicle without even looking back. That's how bad the anger was; it is still a process. I'm still healing, but I know I'm better.

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Tips I used to help with anger

1. when I get angry, I look for something soft to squeeze, basically a ball or my handkerchief folded into a ball.
2. Try as much as possible not to say a word when angry, very important aspect of healing.
3. I start crying: this might sound funny but it helps a lot.
4. I listen to music and raise the volume so loud that I swear that feeling is therapeutic.
5. go somewhere quiet and serene after any altercation to clear off your mind.
   NB I didn't do it alone I had so many sessions and so on.
   Sometimes I just start calling my name and asking myself to calm down, "Esther NWA chukwuemeka calm down it's not worth it" 🤣🤣
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