The Importance of Genuine Apologies in Maintaining Healthy Relationships.
I am not really a fan of those who believe we really need to take vengeance to be happy, but how sad would it be when those who cause you trouble are also the ones trying to be the guilty party in the sense that they claim you are the one that blames them, and then they wait for you to come apologize to them when it's supposed to be the reverse way? What more can a human ask for when we do wickedness for humans like ourselves, and then we act like we haven't done anything bad whatsoever?
It happened that I once had a friend with whom we talked and shared some things together. I actually find it hard to trust someone to some extent due to what has happened to me. But along the line, we bonded, and I let loose my guard in the process, and then she had her way into my heart. This is going to be normal for her, but it wasn't for me. To her, she sees it as a normal thing and is not concerned about how I felt. Instead of helping me get back on track, she went ahead to seek solace elsewhere, and the more I try to be a better version of myself,.
Sometimes I realized something, and I knew she was just using me based on what she stood to gain from me. I felt so disappointed because I never planned it to be like that, but the funny aspect of it all was that I had gone beyond my limit for her all in the name of friendship, and that pained me a lot. I had to make up my mind to let her be and never have anything to do with her again. It was very hard for me to consider losing a friend with whom we do most things together, but it's a choice I have to make to protect my mental wellbeing.
I gradually started to move away from her by not making myself available for whatever she wanted, and even when she needed me the most, she could not go to any of her friends because she was not going to get it, and instead she came to me directly. After I started moving away, she then realized she was not in her best form of behavior and pleaded, but it was not a genuine one.
I had to let her be, and I never knew what her plan was for me to chase after her and plead even after all she had done. This is nothing I would never do, and to me, it's just as if you are not interested in someone and the person wants you to play with them. It's never going to work, no way. We should always learn to apologize even when we are wrong or not, because a little apology could save the moment and save a lot of chaos that might happen later. Be wise, and do not allow pride to make you lose those you cherish and then later regret losing them because it might be too late to reconcile.