level up or fall off
I watched a video on TikTok earlier this year, which displays Wizkid, one of the biggest artists in Nigeria going up a stage and a guy shouting and calling his name, trying to remind him of who he is, he called his own name and also mentioned the school they attended together but Wizkid didn't act like the name means anything to him.
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Then people started bashing Wizkid online for failing to acknowledge his coursemate, but in my own opinion, I believe he has a reason for the way he acted.
In most cases, some people abuse the word friendship, cos we are neighbors, coursemates, play football together on the street, attend the same church, colleagues at work do not automatically make us friends. It is possible to become friends with some of the people you meet in these ways.
I am currently in school, and even though I talk to many people in the department, I only count two as my friends, because we share something beyond just talk; we care and watch each other's backs, so this could be the same case with Wizkid and the guy who claims to know him. Probably they shared a few times together talking like guys do.
I also do not blame people who distance themselves from their old friends when they start making money. There are only two options: either those friends level up or fall off..
As a guy, when you start making money, try to carry your friends along with what you did to make the money, but if they say they can't do it, then you have no other choice but to distance yourself from them because a friendship of 2 or 3 that only 1 is successful is toxic, it breeds contempt, and envy which could end your life.
I heard a story this year about a man who beheaded his friend who kept money in his hand for land purchase. When he was arrested and asked for the reason why he killed his friend, he said he was envious of him.
Another friend brought his friend to Lagos, and after a few years, when the guy was already making more than him that he even built a house, he poured charm in his house, and the guy ended up selling the house and his other assets.
10 children can not be together for 10 years, we meet people in different stages of our life, school life is different from the one after school, we meet new people, and so on, it is okay to help our old friends as long as they are ready to level up too but if what works for you doesn't work for them, there is no point in being together, just help them from afar in your own way.
It was before I used to get mad at people who hide their source of income from others, but humans can be wicked. You may want to share your food with them while they think of having the whole plate to themselves.
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If I level up and my friends failed to do so the situation suppose to be toxic for the fellow class mate but at least for my case I never felt it toxic. Maybe it's because I choose friends rarely or maybe it's because they also think like me. If my friend level up and I failed to do so, I won't be jealous at least.
people can't be like you, you only know yourself, you don't know what others think about you, they might laugh with you but does not mean they are happy for you, but i love the fact you don't keep many friends which means you would only have those who have yur best interest at heart as friends.
This is so true bro. Not everyone we grew up with is a real friend . Some might just be there for the benefits and some just there as a figure head. That is why, sometimes it’s best to help from a distance and protect your peace because not everyone can be your friend initially.
yea, not everyone, the distance doesn't mean like we should avoid them but it is not everything that goes on in our life they should know, they don't need to know how much we earn or the assets we own...
Yeah, you are very correct about it. Boundaries needs to be setted
Old "friends" are really hard to deal with from present you. Some of them do actually believe that just crossing paths with them means you're bounded to be together for a lifetime. What's sometimes funny to me is after years has passed and you meet them again and they act like nothing has changed lol.
some people get really attached to those they know,like I sometimes wish I go back to certain years and my friends also go back to those years because things are not the way it used to be again, their body change, their time and attention also change, adulthood comes with responsibilities which makes us have less time for dear ones... and it also makes us paranoid in a way but being paranoid is not bad, it keeps us safe.
The fact that some people can be laughing with and deep down are the very reason why you might be going through a particular downturn is the more reason why people need to be careful who the offer a helping hand when they succeed because the heart of man is desperately wicked who can know it according to the bible.
Funny thing is those same people forget when the bit the hand that feeds them they will go hungry too.
Thanks for sharing