LOVE !! Sacrifice and Compatibility

When I read through the topics for this week this topic caught my attention I couldn't really figure out what title to give it as it directly affected me.
Life is different when you look at it through someone else's life. But when it directly affects you it's hard.
Welcome to my blog again am glad I can share a little of the consequences of same genotype group.
Having lost 3 siblings to sickle cell I can say I have my full share of life's hurt.
The 3rd lost came with a big blow that we had to set up a sickle cell Foundation to help educate teenagers about the traits.
I find it hard and difficult to believe that some people still go ahead and marry themselves knowing fully well that their genotype isn't compatible.
I had dated someone for five years but when we found out we were both "AS" I walked away from that relationship because I have first hand experience of the crisis and trauma those living with the traits suffer. You have to be decide what you want while settling down. Growing up those crisis affected every member of my family. The last of Blessed memories like I said was the last baby of the house we all would watch him cry and scream in pain and not be able to help out. You will be confused and frustrated as you can't take the pain from him or help him feel
In any way.
In our parents time they didn't know but in this present generation there no excuse still going on with a same genotype marriage of "AS".
Do I regret walking away from that relationship no. Because I love children and it will break my heart over and over again to see my child or children in pain and I will be helpless to them.
Yes children because one may not be lucky to escape the strong gene 🧬🧬 of the "AS" attractions to the spouse's Our "AS" gene. What right mother will have the strength to watch their babies in pain.

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I have seen the toll the death of my siblings left on my mother's health even as I type I still get teary because it hurts too much .
There's no amount of love that should make you bring a child to suffer in pain and be traumatised because those episodes affecta them even academically as well they struggle to keep up with class work.
I call it selfishness the people that go ahead to do this in this present time aren't just selfish but also heart less. What is love if you can't think of your unborn child's or children well being and good health.
I didn't get to see one of my siblings that was a carrier.
The second was my elder sister I looked up to her for almost everything but one day after she clocked 17 she fell sick was taken to the hospital and never came back.
Our baby of the house grew up to 29 years and just when we least expected it his organs failed him from no way we did all we could tokeep but he got tired of fighting.

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So yes even if the person am to walk down the isle with or myself found out about our genotype I will walk away again without thinking about it.
That's love.