Revisiting My Root

yesterday

It is an inarguable fact when I say - diverse factors, which I love to call "agents of socialization," play a very vital role in grooming us from our kids days until we become what we are in the world today.

Some of these factors restricted our thinking faculty, making it caged in a little space, while some of these factors opened our minds to diverse aspects of life. It made us understand the importance of value, and being worth something, thus, the search for financial freedom.

My childhood days was filled with lots of friends and fun activities. Though introverted towards strangers and some persons, when I become really comfortable, it's kind of difficult to not share ideas.

I remember the first hangout we ever had in Umuahia. The hangout was attended by some prominent authors of hive. We were really happy to meet each other in person. We had fun all through the hangout. The fun lasted for hours until we remembered that we did not take any pictures. Lol.

During the hangout, the only thing I could think of, is how to add value and worth to the hive space. I was mostly trying to chip in thought provoking discussions that guides our mindset towards making adding value to the hive space, and not just benefiting from it. We came up with lots of ideas. Some have been set in motion, and some are still in stock, waiting for the perfect time to suffice.

Being an over thinker comes with lots of advantages. Above is one of it. Creativity. The thoughts of how to add value to oneself and worth more than what they worth in the past second. I don't know if I should call it a gift because of what it's has helped me achieved, or, if I should call it a curse because it keeps me awake all night and drains a lot of my energy.

My perspective of life is one that revolves around being successful. I dont really want the success per se, but I want the person i would have to become in other to be successful.

All these thought process started when I was a kid. I have a rich uncle who I admire a lot because of his financial success. Put the problem there was that I was always being indirectly oppressed by his children. They were always showing off flashy things that I couldn't have. They probably didn't think much of it, but to me, I took it as a challenge to be able to get myself anything I wanted. I love challenges a lot. I love having positive rivals.

Where I'm from, we believe in looking out for each other. Wether biological brother of just normal friend, we believe in collective growth over individual growth. Now the problem with this is that - it is very difficult to achieve.

I grew up the in the northern part of Nigeria, a place where we are our brothers keepers. If one person has a problem, the entire squad has a problem. This is the type of life I'm used to.

If you touch one of us, you should be ready to hear from all of us, including our uncles and aunties. Inarguably, we had small fights within ourselves, but then, it is always settled quickly.

Growing up with the mindset of unity has always affected me a lot, most especially, when I came down to the east. In 2016, my family relocated from the north to the east. It was very difficult to adapt. Truthfully, I have still not adapted properly to eastern life even though I've been here for over 5 years (I travelled to Abuja, where I spent some years).

Unlike the north, easterners don't really acknowledge the word "unity." I see brother killing brother because of a piece of land. People fighting over a bottle of beer and cow meat. Yes, I'm an indigene of the east, but truthfully, I prefer the northern part of Nigeria because of the unity they share.

Growing up, mom always hammered on the concept of consequentialism. In her words, there is a reward and punishment for everything good or bad you do. So, make your choice.

All these things have actually affected my decision making process a lot. Also, though I have constantly been used by people here in the east cause' I trust easily (thinking they share the same idea of unity), I still don't want to give up the kindness of extending care to those in need.

There are lots of things that have contributed to the way I see things and view life on general.

Thank you for reading

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