When Love Faces Family Resistance – What Would I Do?

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This type of stuff happens in our today society often, many relationships have hit rock bottom because of family issues, and many families have become a fight club because of relationships, finding a balance between family and love life is not easy but with patience and understanding, both can be handled perfectly.

You meet someone, and it’s like the world finally makes sense. That one person who makes your heart calm even in the middle of chaos. Your better half. The love of your life. The one person you feel you can’t live without.

But then reality hits, your family is totally against it. They don’t like him/her. Not even a little. They don’t want to hear about the relationship, they don’t want to see both of you together, and they definitely don’t want marriage to happen between you two.

Now, what would I do in a situation like this?

Honestly, I will try my best to talk to my parents first. I will sit down and explain how much I care about this person. I’ll tell them how this person makes me feel, safe, seen, loved, and supported. I’ll pour my heart out and let them know this isn’t just some ordinary fling. This is someone I see a future with.

If that doesn't work, I will look for someone they respect or always listen to, maybe a relative, a religious leader, or even an old friend, anyone I know they take seriously. I’ll ask that person to speak to them on my behalf. Because sometimes, hearing it from someone else makes a difference.

But if after all that, after all the pleading, talking, and explaining, they still refuse to listen or even try to understand, then I’ll have to follow my heart.

Because at the end of the day, it’s my life, not theirs. I’m the one who’s going to wake up beside this person every morning. I’m the one who will live with the choices I make, not them. And I strongly believe everyone deserves a chance to find real love and happiness.

That being said, I won’t just ignore my parents without reasoning things out. I’ll also try to understand where they’re coming from. Maybe they have a serious concern I haven’t seen. Maybe there’s something really critical that I need to know. If it’s something serious, like character issues, abuse, criminal behavior or something deep, of course, I’ll rethink everything.

But if their rejection is based on things like tribe, background, or the person’s past, I won’t allow that to be the reason I lose the love of my life. Everyone has a past. What matters is who they are now and who we can become together.

Love is not always easy. Sometimes, it comes with hard choices. But if it’s real, it’s worth fighting for.